YAGT: (seriously) Megan is not pregnant. Our engagement is over.

[Red]

I'm not pulling any race stuff, but Billy (the uncle) told me that this guy is FROM Mexico and has only been in the US for a couple years. Where Megan was at was right on the border, maybe 5 minutes away. He said he is a 20 year guy, kinda short, like 5'7" (Megan is 5'10" btw) and he is really really muscular from working out and taking 'roids (apparently they are really cheap in Mexico?). He said that the dude is a big time player but he won't even blame him in this situation because he said the ball was in Megan's court the entire time.

 

[jpeyton]

Damn, ATOT is not the place you want to be if you want positive news about relationships.

All I see are divorce/breakup threads.

 

Originally posted by: jpeyton
Damn, ATOT is not the place you want to be if you want positive news about relationships.

All I see are divorce/breakup threads.

That's because the people in successful, loving relationships (like me) don't feel the need to bitch and whine and lament on an Internet message board. I come here for fun, not for guidance.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Red
Thanks guys It just seems like a person is so blind from inside a relationship. I know at least a couple of you told me to get rid of her once she was complaining about romance because it was an age-old sign of her wanted to have fun with someon else. Ah well. I hope I'm not acting pretty normal because I'm still in the denial phase of a crisis... I think I've moved to the 2nd or 3rd stage because I was boo-hooing a bit last night the more I thought of it, but right now I just want to move on like nothing happened, push her out of my life and wish her the best, just not with me.

The fourth stage is commonly known as "fvcking some random chick silly and not feeling bad about not calling her the next day."

men are stupid.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Red
Thanks guys It just seems like a person is so blind from inside a relationship. I know at least a couple of you told me to get rid of her once she was complaining about romance because it was an age-old sign of her wanted to have fun with someon else. Ah well. I hope I'm not acting pretty normal because I'm still in the denial phase of a crisis... I think I've moved to the 2nd or 3rd stage because I was boo-hooing a bit last night the more I thought of it, but right now I just want to move on like nothing happened, push her out of my life and wish her the best, just not with me.

The fourth stage is commonly known as "fvcking some random chick silly and not feeling bad about not calling her the next day."

men are stupid.

nah, but this approach sure does cure what ails ya. It is a universal truth...bang somebody else to get over the ex.

 

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Red
Thanks guys It just seems like a person is so blind from inside a relationship. I know at least a couple of you told me to get rid of her once she was complaining about romance because it was an age-old sign of her wanted to have fun with someon else. Ah well. I hope I'm not acting pretty normal because I'm still in the denial phase of a crisis... I think I've moved to the 2nd or 3rd stage because I was boo-hooing a bit last night the more I thought of it, but right now I just want to move on like nothing happened, push her out of my life and wish her the best, just not with me.

The fourth stage is commonly known as "fvcking some random chick silly and not feeling bad about not calling her the next day."

men are stupid.

Hey, but we know how to get over an engagement. If you say up front that you're in this thing for one night, is there anything wrong with that?

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Red
Thanks guys It just seems like a person is so blind from inside a relationship. I know at least a couple of you told me to get rid of her once she was complaining about romance because it was an age-old sign of her wanted to have fun with someon else. Ah well. I hope I'm not acting pretty normal because I'm still in the denial phase of a crisis... I think I've moved to the 2nd or 3rd stage because I was boo-hooing a bit last night the more I thought of it, but right now I just want to move on like nothing happened, push her out of my life and wish her the best, just not with me.

The fourth stage is commonly known as "fvcking some random chick silly and not feeling bad about not calling her the next day."

men are stupid.

nah, but this approach sure does cure what ails ya. It is a universal truth...bang somebody else to get over the ex.

i really dont think that having sex with a random stranger is going to make everything better.

 

[welst10]

Do not marry her. You're 21, for gods sake. There're so many women in the future waiting for you.

 

[spidey07]

i really dont think that having sex with a random stranger is going to make everything better.

Actually it does, and always has.

 

[halik]

damn dude that sucks....
get the ring, pay off the debt and cut all contact with her. You'll be fine in a couple of months .... in the meanwhile alcohol works great


oh yeah id call up her uncle and thank his for being decent

 

[DougK62]

I was going to make a joke about dumping your mom but it doesn't seem appropriate.

 

[Red]

I need to start getting in shape! 6'1", 205lb. No big gut or anything, but I need to bulk up, clean myself up (you get kinda lazy with manscaping when you're in a "comfortable" relationship) and just live fvcking life.

 

[CChaos]

It seems to me that if she's strayed once then she's likely to do it again. Bear that in mind should you decide to patch things up. I don't think you should just forget and act like nothing happened, but rather learn from the situation and move on. Don't get back together because it's easy, do it only if it's right for you and you can really forgive her. Otherwise, you will regret it and there will be hell to pay down the line.

Good luck whatever you decide.

 

[Shelly21]

Dump her.

Look on the bright side, you can do better (seriously) and people won't make fun of you dating your mom anymore.

 

[Nebor]

I think it's silly to end the relationship over this. This is 3 years of your life.... And I mean, you're in love. In the grand scheme of things, making out with Pacho is about as bad as naked pictures of her turning up on the internet. She apologizes, you move on.

I think you're being too dramatic in this situation. You should have just had a long talk about trust, and telling each other the truth, and let that be that. Instead you kinda knee-jerked and ended things.

Also, her finances don't have anything to do with anything. She's an adult, if you're serious about not being with her anymore, she can take care of herself, the same as you.

I wouldn't presume to tell you what to do, like a lot of other people in this thread, but I think you should really think about the situation. Is Pach worth ending it? If something so small can end it all, maybe there was nothing there to start with.

 

[Fingolfin269]

Okay, I finally had the time to read the entire OP.

I would not get back together with her. There will come a time where you'll have to make that decision and getting back together will seem like the easiest/best option at the time. But, I'm telling you, be strong and don't do it. No matter what you will never know what 'really' happened in Texas. Your uncle doesn't know either. That means that no matter how much time passes you're always going to wonder. Sure, the frequency won't be as constant as time goes by, but it will still be there, affecting the trust in your relationship.

Stories like yours, on top of my own stories, are the main reasons that I've come to the conclusion that serious relationships are for everyone else. 50% divorce rate and statistics like that can't lie. Having kids is the only real reason that I ever would consider getting married at this point.

 

[fw3308]

Red, just move one and be done with her. The fact she did that prior to marriage displays a major character flaw in her that could rear its ugly head again if you stay with her and do get married. Make a clean break and focus on yourself for a while. you are young enjoy life for a bit before taking the plunge again. Good luck!

 

[Red]

Originally posted by: CChaos
It seems to me that if she's strayed once then she's likely to do it again. Bear that in mind should you decide to patch things up. I don't think you should just forget and act like nothing happened, but rather learn from the situation and move on. Don't get back together because it's easy, do it only if it's right for you and you can really forgive her. Otherwise, you will regret it and there will be hell to pay down the line.

Good luck whatever you decide.

CChaos, I've already decided not to be with her. And she knows this. I just want it to be as easy as possible (I guess that's all anyone wants in this situation?). I'm going to get the ring today, explain to her that we're only 21, we'll be back in the game in no time. I don't wanna show any affection because that will only mess things up. I just hope she acts cool and calm also.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: Nebor
I think it's silly to end the relationship over this. This is 3 years of your life.... And I mean, you're in love. In the grand scheme of things, making out with Pacho is about as bad as naked pictures of her turning up on the internet. She apologizes, you move on.

I think you're being too dramatic in this situation. You should have just had a long talk about trust, and telling each other the truth, and let that be that. Instead you kinda knee-jerked and ended things.

Also, her finances don't have anything to do with anything. She's an adult, if you're serious about not being with her anymore, she can take care of herself, the same as you.

I wouldn't presume to tell you what to do, like a lot of other people in this thread, but I think you should really think about the situation. Is Pach worth ending it? If something so small can end it all, maybe there was nothing there to start with.

Not being sure if you can trust the person you intend on marrying is not a small issue.

Second-guessing anything she does that doesn't involve you is not a small issue.

 

[Ogg]

Originally posted by: Red

Originally posted by: CChaos
It seems to me that if she's strayed once then she's likely to do it again. Bear that in mind should you decide to patch things up. I don't think you should just forget and act like nothing happened, but rather learn from the situation and move on. Don't get back together because it's easy, do it only if it's right for you and you can really forgive her. Otherwise, you will regret it and there will be hell to pay down the line.

Good luck whatever you decide.

CChaos, I've already decided not to be with her. And she knows this. I just want it to be as easy as possible (I guess that's all anyone wants in this situation?). I'm going to get the ring today, explain to her that we're only 21, we'll be back in the game in no time. I don't wanna show any affection because that will only mess things up. I just hope she acts cool and calm also.

the ring is hers einstein!

 

[Nanotech]

Originally posted by: spidey07

i really dont think that having sex with a random stranger is going to make everything better.

Actually it does, and always has.

I think the reason for this is b/c when your with a woman for that long you begin to think that you have "careered out" so to speak or reached your pinnacle in hotness and that it will take you forever to get laid again.

Well, once you have accomplished having sex with a random attractive stranger then you know your worries are over and you are filled with confidence and may or may not wish to sleep with randoms again.

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: Nebor
I think it's silly to end the relationship over this. This is 3 years of your life.... And I mean, you're in love. In the grand scheme of things, making out with Pacho is about as bad as naked pictures of her turning up on the internet. She apologizes, you move on.

I think you're being too dramatic in this situation. You should have just had a long talk about trust, and telling each other the truth, and let that be that. Instead you kinda knee-jerked and ended things.

Also, her finances don't have anything to do with anything. She's an adult, if you're serious about not being with her anymore, she can take care of herself, the same as you.

I wouldn't presume to tell you what to do, like a lot of other people in this thread, but I think you should really think about the situation. Is Pach worth ending it? If something so small can end it all, maybe there was nothing there to start with.

Not being sure if you can trust the person you intend on marrying is not a small issue.

Second-guessing anything she does that doesn't involve you is not a small issue.

As I said, they need to talk about trust. But what happened in Texas was just some crazy thing that happened on vacation. Like flashing at Mardis Gras. She was embarassed and ashamed that it happened, that's why she was keeping it a secret. She wasn't doing it to hurt you, or to try to carry on some relationship with Pacho.

 

[Nikamichi]

Megan calls at 2am (calm, not crying) and said that she knows this is the end of it, but wants to me to know that she did not have sex with the guy down there, they just made out a whole lot.

Wow. Red, whenever a woman freely admits that the relationship is over because of her own promiscuity, let it be over for good. She's definitely not worth it and she can obviously live with her decision to sleep w/ another guy, since she was so calm telling you about it on the phone. I would do as much as possible to get the ring back, especially since it was $6Gs.

Best of luck, Red.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: Nebor

Originally posted by: isasir

Not being sure if you can trust the person you intend on marrying is not a small issue.

Second-guessing anything she does that doesn't involve you is not a small issue.

As I said, they need to talk about trust. But what happened in Texas was just some crazy thing that happened on vacation. Like flashing at Mardis Gras. She was embarassed and ashamed that it happened, that's why she was keeping it a secret. She wasn't doing it to hurt you, or to try to carry on some relationship with Pacho.

Have you been in a relationship before?

I'm a firm believer of 'once a cheater, always a cheater.' If Red took her back, she'd know that he's pvssy-whipped, and she will likely cheat again.

She LIED to his face about the incident! Perhaps if she called him and told him right away that she did it, blamed it on the alcohol, and because they were fighting, and said it wouldn't happen again, then maybe it could be downplayed.

 

[CPA]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Red
Thanks guys It just seems like a person is so blind from inside a relationship. I know at least a couple of you told me to get rid of her once she was complaining about romance because it was an age-old sign of her wanted to have fun with someon else. Ah well. I hope I'm not acting pretty normal because I'm still in the denial phase of a crisis... I think I've moved to the 2nd or 3rd stage because I was boo-hooing a bit last night the more I thought of it, but right now I just want to move on like nothing happened, push her out of my life and wish her the best, just not with me.

The fourth stage is commonly known as "fvcking some random chick silly and not feeling bad about not calling her the next day."

men are stupid.

Right. And women never use a "Rebound Guy". :roll: