Originally posted by: Special K
Originally posted by: Juice Box
All the offers I've made recently involve doing things with other people, because I wanted to make it clear that I am not just after one thing (what most guys are after )....I really just like the time we do spend together.
I completely disagree with your reasoning here. If you are interested in her as more than friends, then you NEED to ask her out one on one and make it clear it is a date. After you met her for the first time, that was enough of an introduction to get her number and ask her out on a one on one date. It doesn't have to be anything big - coffee would have been fine.
Going on a date does not mean you are only after sex.
Well, I mean, in that case, then I suppose we did. We went out to coffee the night she came and met my friends. We sat and talked for about an hour over coffee, it was a pretty good time...that was back when we talked a ton and had a good time.
Update: We went to dinner tonight with my friends and it went pretty well I suppose. She wasn't very talkative, moreso only to me, but I suppose that's what happens when you're around new people. She thanked me for inviting her, and said she'd have to be more talkative next time.
It's strange though, that since shes kinda been more distant, our conversations don't go as well as they used to. We used to talk a ton and laugh about everything, and really click well. Tonight was just kinda "eh"..I mean, there were a few good times, but no where near where it used to me. It really makes me feel like there was one point in time where she totally changed her mind when it comes to me....and I for the life of me cannot figure out what that may be, if anything. I'm kinda stuck in a rut at the moment and I'm not sure what to do. I kinda feel like i have 2 main options.
1) lay low for the next week...she has a ton of tests/papers to do, and I figure I can give her space and then once that's over try again to hang out and talk more
2) try to get some time in for us this weekend and ask her straight up what the deal is. I'll probably tell her what's been going on in my mind (how i really did used to have a great time with her, and I feel as if I did something wrong, and kinda try and find out why the sudden change in her manner towards me)....it's a long shot, and could ruin everything I suppose, but I guess I'll never know until I ask.
As I've said, the main problem is that I only see her twice a week in class, which doesn't give me a whole lot of time to get conversation in person, which I think means a lot more, obviously. And even then, no one wants to talk about serious stuff between classes...that's just no good. So I figure when it comes time to try and get some time in for us, I'd have to ask one day after class or something....alas, I do not know. This has been on my mind a lot the past few days and I really need to learn to stop caring so damn much....I just really, really enjoyed the first few times we hung out, it really did please me quite a bit, she is a really great girl....
=/ that's that I suppose