yagt: *sigh* what have I done this time....

[MichaelD]

You've already been thrown into the Friend Zone Bin. Sorry.

She likes you. As a friend. Like a GF (I know you're not gay, but "trusts" you like a GF).

POSSIBLY (I wasn't there to personally observe said dates) you talked and talked and TALKED some more without complimenting her and otherwise showing "Hey, I'm a man...I got this thingee here...I want you to touch it..." and she lost interest in anything physical.

I would still be friendly to her and make time for/with her if she seems to want that, but I would MOVE ON with my life.

You said you're shy, etc. Not ANY MORE, apparently. Congratulations! You're well on your way, Cassonova. :evil:

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
laugh. So you think by hiding your sexuality she will become more attracted to you? Listen, girls know all to well what is really going on when you are flirting with them. There is no need to sugar coat it. In fact many girls will find it awkward or creepy if a guy is pretending to not be interested in sex....it is abnormal and they will see right through it.

Believe it or not, not everyone cares about putting the winky in the wahoo as much as you :roll:. If we all succumbed to primordial desires, we'd be nothing more than cavemen... although the thought of clubbing a woman like a baby seal for your own whims would make courting much easier... :evil:!

He's in college, he's not courting the mother of his children in the 1700's. Its a college hook up and should be treated as such. Fact is, he should have made a move when she invited him over for a movie. Everyone knows a movie is codeword for hooking up. Had he hooked up with her at that time she would think the next logical step for them would be to persue something more serious by hanging out more frequently
.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
stop ho chasin


BTW: a rule of thumb here...you are fighting an uphill battle if you are pursuing a relationship before you've gotten physical with the girl. Hook up first, persue relationship second. Women are usually more comfortable with this format than with the inverse.

I've always found that when I do them like that (most of the time) they ALWAYS say later "I can't believe we slept together so soon. I swear I'm not that kind of girl!"......yeeeeah, riiiight

"i've never done this before"

"I know baby, this is so bad we should stop"

 

[IceBergSLiM]

I am gonna put myself iin her shoes for a minute. Lets just say a girl asks me to hang out. We hang out it goes well. Now all of a sudden she is trying to call me everyday and ask me to hang out again. I'm thinking to myself...this chick started talking to me 2 weeks ago...I haven't even kissed this girl yet and she is in love with me. STALKER ALERT!! Stage 5 clinger!!! RUN!!!!


think about it.

 

[Gulzakar]

You didn't have a chance to begin with. If she was really interested, it would be more apparent.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
stop ho chasin


BTW: a rule of thumb here...you are fighting an uphill battle if you are pursuing a relationship before you've gotten physical with the girl. Hook up first, persue relationship second. Women are usually more comfortable with this format than with the inverse.

I've always found that when I do them like that (most of the time) they ALWAYS say later "I can't believe we slept together so soon. I swear I'm not that kind of girl!"......yeeeeah, riiiight

"i've never done this before"

"I know baby, this is so bad we should stop"

"Noooo....it feels so gooooood!!



Okay....that's enough man!

 

[homercles337]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
stop ho chasin


BTW: a rule of thumb here...you are fighting an uphill battle if you are pursuing a relationship before you've gotten physical with the girl. Hook up first, persue relationship second. Women are usually more comfortable with this format than with the inverse.

Precisely. In this case, if it doesnt work out, at least you have gotten some action. Although, i seriously doubt the OP has ever seen ANY action and he seems to be in college.

What to do now OP? I think MisterJackson hit this one. And keep in touch casually and randomly, just to "remind" her that youre around.

 

[SViper]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
laugh. So you think by hiding your sexuality she will become more attracted to you? Listen, girls know all to well what is really going on when you are flirting with them. There is no need to sugar coat it. In fact many girls will find it awkward or creepy if a guy is pretending to not be interested in sex....it is abnormal and they will see right through it.

Believe it or not, not everyone cares about putting the winky in the wahoo as much as you :roll:. If we all succumbed to primordial desires, we'd be nothing more than cavemen... although the thought of clubbing a woman like a baby seal for your own whims would make courting much easier... :evil:!

He's in college, he's not courting the mother of his children in the 1700's. Its a college hook up and should be treated as such. Fact is, he should have made a move when she invited him over for a movie. Everyone knows a movie is codeword for hooking up. Had he hooked up with her at that time she would think the next logical step for them would be to persue something more serious by hanging out more frequently
.

QFT (bolded part). Every time I have watched a movie with a girl, I always make some moves to get physical. They have always welcomed it (i.e. doesn't turn down my advances).

Edit: You have to grow some cojones to make a move. I like the analogy another poster said about catching chocobos. You have to ease into it and feel the situation out. If you attack her at the beginning like a rabid dog, you will get a one-way ticket to the front door.

 

[Aikouka]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
He's in college, he's not courting the mother of his children in the 1700's. Its a college hook up and should be treated as such. Fact is, he should have made a move when she invited him over for a movie. Everyone knows a movie is codeword for hooking up. Had he hooked up with her at that time she would think the next logical step for them would be to persue something more serious by hanging out more frequently.

Bah, sounds like something one of my friends would say, and in my opinion, he treats women more like sex objects than anything else . I think it's a brash generalization to think everyone's looking to satisfy some desire 24/7. For me, if I haven't seen the movie, then damnit, I wanna watch the movie. If I have, I could care less if we decide to test the pH of each other's mouth .

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
He's in college, he's not courting the mother of his children in the 1700's. Its a college hook up and should be treated as such. Fact is, he should have made a move when she invited him over for a movie. Everyone knows a movie is codeword for hooking up. Had he hooked up with her at that time she would think the next logical step for them would be to persue something more serious by hanging out more frequently.

Bah, sounds like something one of my friends would say, and in my opinion, he treats women more like sex objects than anything else . I think it's a brash generalization to think everyone's looking to satisfy some desire 24/7. For me, if I haven't seen the movie, then damnit, I wanna watch the movie. If I have, I could care less if we decide to test the pH of each other's mouth .

you can do whatever you want. but don't come back crying like the OP asking what went wrong.

 

[archiloco]

Option A

Try pushing away for a few days, just some space.

or the alternate

Option B (most of the time it's more fun)

go after it like it's out of style, let her know what you think and what your intentions are, and that you won't want to play any games because she is too important to you to play games, this is the rest of your life and it matters.

but again you could try the first one, and don't get her roses and chocolates if you do decide to go with option B and definitely don't get on one knee or something like that.


edit: this is a last ditch effort because like everybody said you are in the friend zone, but you can get out of it sometimes it's rare but hey you did not know her a few weeks ago any who.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
He's in college, he's not courting the mother of his children in the 1700's. Its a college hook up and should be treated as such. Fact is, he should have made a move when she invited him over for a movie. Everyone knows a movie is codeword for hooking up. Had he hooked up with her at that time she would think the next logical step for them would be to persue something more serious by hanging out more frequently.

Bah, sounds like something one of my friends would say, and in my opinion, he treats women more like sex objects than anything else . I think it's a brash generalization to think everyone's looking to satisfy some desire 24/7. For me, if I haven't seen the movie, then damnit, I wanna watch the movie. If I have, I could care less if we decide to test the pH of each other's mouth .

you can do whatever you want. but don't come back crying like the OP asking what went wrong.

Denying one's primal urge (since the dawn of man we've wanted sex and not much more) is to do a diservice to oneself.

 

[theknight571]

Have you tried asking her to do something with you that didn't involve others?

Maybe after witnessing your buddies partying she doesn't want to hang with them.

 

[eleison]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Denying one's primal urge (since the dawn of man we've wanted sex and not much more) is to do a diservice to oneself.

What happens if the man is gay?

 

[Leejai]

Sounds like the friend zone to me too. One thing to remember is because you like someone doesn't automatically mean they like you back, so go with the blows. It doesn't mean you have to stop trying, but it does mean you have to be a little more subtle and possibly take a step back.

At the same time, see if you've learned anything and keep meeting ppl! You went into it with good intentions, who knows if maybe you'll hit it off with the next person you meet.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: eleison

Originally posted by: MisterJackson

Denying one's primal urge (since the dawn of man we've wanted sex and not much more) is to do a diservice to oneself.

What happens if the man is gay?

Then it's even easier to hook up.

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: Juice Box
... I told her that I'd burn her a DVD of music she had to listen to...

you gave her a mixed music CD before your first date? :Q

OH SNAP! :Q

I hope it belonged to a friend...

Haha, yes yes I did....I know it seems like a bit much, but I'm gonna be honest when I say that I do, and have done, that for many friends in the past. It is just something I do...I try my best to make my friends happy, and that includes her.

and go figure...right as I post this, she agrees to go out to dinner with me and my friends tonight......*head explodes from confusion*

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: Juice Box

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: Juice Box
... I told her that I'd burn her a DVD of music she had to listen to...

you gave her a mixed music CD before your first date? :Q

OH SNAP! :Q

I hope it belonged to a friend...

Haha, yes yes I did....I know it seems like a bit much, but I'm gonna be honest when I say that I do, and have done, that for many friends in the past. It is just something I do...I try my best to make my friends happy, and that includes her.

and go figure...right as I post this, she agrees to go out to dinner with me and my friends tonight......*head explodes from confusion*

Text

 

[xXped0thugXx]

Ask her to play a game called just the tip. Just for a second to see how it feels.

 

[cheapgoose]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
Not to use a bad analogy, but you blew your wad too quick. If you would have played it out over a longer period of time, it might have went the way you wanted. Unfortunately you may have shown too much interest and kinda relegated yourself to the aforementioned "friend zone".

It's kinda like catching a chocobo in FF7. At first you get all excited and throw them expensive greens. After a while you realize that it's better to just take it easy and throw them the cheap ass 100-gil greens. If you get too excited and "attack", they run away.
q]

Thank you sir for making me laugh this morning. :beer:

 

[wheresmybacon]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim


*points at this*

Originally posted by: Juice Box
All the offers I've made recently involve doing things with other people, because I wanted to make it clear that I am not just after one thing (what most guys are after )....I really just like the time we do spend together.

laugh. So you think by hiding your sexuality she will become more attracted to you? Listen, girls know all to well what is really going on when you are flirting with them. There is no need to sugar coat it. In fact many girls will find it awkward or creepy if a guy is pretending to not be interested in sex....it is abnormal and they will see right through it.

[/quote]this man speaks the truth

 

[eleison]

Originally posted by: hungfarover

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim


*points at this*

Originally posted by: Juice Box
All the offers I've made recently involve doing things with other people, because I wanted to make it clear that I am not just after one thing (what most guys are after )....I really just like the time we do spend together.

laugh. So you think by hiding your sexuality she will become more attracted to you? Listen, girls know all to well what is really going on when you are flirting with them. There is no need to sugar coat it. In fact many girls will find it awkward or creepy if a guy is pretending to not be interested in sex....it is abnormal and they will see right through it.

this man speaks the truth
[/quote]

Only gay men should be using the phrase: "I really just like the time we do spend together"

 

[imported_vr6]

stop paying attention to her and see if she responds.

 

[SViper]

Originally posted by: Juice Box

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: Juice Box
... I told her that I'd burn her a DVD of music she had to listen to...

you gave her a mixed music CD before your first date? :Q

OH SNAP! :Q

I hope it belonged to a friend...

Haha, yes yes I did....I know it seems like a bit much, but I'm gonna be honest when I say that I do, and have done, that for many friends in the past. It is just something I do...I try my best to make my friends happy, and that includes her.

and go figure...right as I post this, she agrees to go out to dinner with me and my friends tonight......*head explodes from confusion*

If you want to be anything more than friends with her, you better make some moves on her.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: vr6
stop paying attention to her and see if she responds.

this is the proper course of action. :thumbsup: