YAGT: situation with girl

[zixxer]

cliffs at bottom


I've been dating this girl about 7-8 months. Yesterday was her best friends birthday. With a group of about 6 friends (all couples, except for one of my girls friends that is on visit from the army) we went out to eat, then to a club..

ok.. so we eat, and are all waiting to get inside the club. after about 10 minutes we get to the point where they check id's, then the line goes inside for about 15 minutes... well... it turns out that this dude from the military isn't 21... so he's checked at the door. we're all that like sucks etc etc. nice seeing you, (he isn't really that great of a friend of anyone's except my girl, who was good friends w/ him in high school). after a min or two when we're inside im like wtf where did she go.. someone else was like i think she's out there w/ the under 21 dude... after like 10-15 min we are about to the point to pay and get inside, and she's still not back. one of her friends goes to get her, comes back, and is like.. she said she's gonna go get coffee and will see everyone later.


so.. i call her and am like... wtGDf are you doing??.. she seemed genuine about not thinking this would be a problem... i told her you don't fscking do that to someone... that how would she feel if i left without saying sh!t to her with another girl of mine? or a guy, or anyone... you just don't do that.... on top of the fact that her best friend is pretty upset that she ditched her on her bday...

she ended up coming back, but it took her 20-30 min to get inside, etc etc. I told her im not going to talk about this sh!t tonight, I'm not going to ruin someone's birthday over it. she was REALLY upset.. I was like whatever, and had fun doing my thing. the whole night she was really apologetic and crap. she said that at the time it didn't seem like it would be a big deal

so, she's at work now.. im trying to decide how i feel and what im going to do. what would you do?

cliffs:

girl ive been dating for like 7 months leaves a club with a guy friend (there is nothing between them, I'm 100% positive about that) without saying anything to me, or her best friend (and it was her best friends b-day). once she found out we were mad, she came back. im still pretty pissed about it, and her friend is hurt over it. what would you do?

 

[PunDogg]

did she say she was sorry? and y she left??

Dogg

does she do drugs that you don't know about

 

[her209]

Wow... she wanted to bone that guy in front of you man!

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: PunDogg
did she say she was sorry? and y she left??

Dogg

does she do drugs that you don't know about

she left because she hasn't this guy, who is/was a good friend to her, in at least 6 months since he's in the military.


no drug drugs.. she's on anti depressants.

 

[shimsham]

i can understand why she would want to hang with that guy in that situation. she can go clubbing with her best friend anytime, but cant just go have coffee with the old friend(and a true best friend, meaning the bday girl, would understand that also).

crappy that she didnt tell you or her bday friend wtf she was doing tho.

if she doesnt do things like this all the time, and i assume you guys had been drinking, it was probably just a brain fart on your gfs part. shes apologized and realized she was wrong, so dont rant on about it too much. no reason to go all "woman" about it and create needless drama and grudges.

 

[BeauJangles]

I really don't understand what the situation is. You said you know there is nothing between them so, instead of getting all pissed off why not just say something like "hey, I don't mind if you want to hang out with your friend, but could you please let me know that you are leaving next time."

Personally, I've trusted every girl I've dated and I would say exactly what I suggested above. I would probably have also told her I was dissapointed because it was her friend's birthday and I feel a little out of place when she isn't there, but I certainly wouldn't be as angry as you sound.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: BlinderBomber
I really don't understand what the situation is. You said you know there is nothing between them so, instead of getting all pissed off why not just say something like "hey, I don't mind if you want to hang out with your friend, but could you please let me know that you are leaving next time."

Personally, I've trusted every girl I've dated and I would say exactly what I suggested above. I would probably have also told her I was dissapointed because it was her friend's birthday and I feel a little out of place when she isn't there, but I certainly wouldn't be as angry as you sound.

im not angry about her going to hang out with him.


i'm angry because she ditched me, without saying anything.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

What would I do about it? I'd stop posting my girl problems on the web and get it through my thick skull that I need to grow a pair and solve situations on my own. That's what I'd do.

 

[PHiuR]

chill out, she was trying to be nice to the under 21 guy. He couldn't get in with the group and he had to be all alone cause of that.

 

[josh0099]

I see your point about leaving everyone on her b-day party....but you coulda probally handled it a little better.

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

i think the main problem is that she just left without saying a word, that is very troubling behavior. i can't see why she wouldn't at least tell the OP she was going to stay behind and hang out with the under 21 guy, that's a really shady thing to do. i mean it was a very nice thing of her to do to stay behind and hang out with that guy, but she shouldn't have ditched the OP like that without a word.

i'd say just let things cool down OP before you talk to her again. it could have all been a huge misunderstanding you know.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: PHiuR
chill out, she was trying to be nice to the under 21 guy. He couldn't get in with the group and he had to be all alone cause of that.

dude that's fine..... it would have taken 20 seconds to come in, be like hey babe im going to go hang out w/ him for awhile so he's not stuck by himself for the night

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: PunDogg
did she say she was sorry? and y she left??

Dogg

does she do drugs that you don't know about

she left because she hasn't this guy, who is/was a good friend to her, in at least 6 months since he's in the military.


no drug drugs.. she's on anti depressants.

So whats the big deal then?

I see no problem with this. You trust your gf so just let it be. She was just looking out for a friend of hers.

End of story. Sure she should have said something before hand to you guys but she probably wasn't thinking so clearly or she just forgot.

Koing

 

[VirginiaDonkey]

she apologized, what else do you want?

Quit being an ass, or next time she will bone the guy in front of you

 

[iwantanewcomputer]

it sounds like she was trying to not ditch her friend, which would have been a reall asshole thing to do, and you guys left them standing outside of the club without even considering that

 

[Regs]

Originally posted by: her209
Wow... she wanted to bone that guy in front of you man!

lmao. You came off really jealous and immature zixxer, tisk tisk. You don't just leave a guy stranded outside the club and tell him "tough ******". Especially if it was her friend.

You have to think like a girl in that situation.

 

[illusion88]

Just forgive and forget and there are no hard feelings. Let her know that it upset you when she left without telling you, but also make it clear that you would have been OK with her leaving had she told you.

/thread

 

[BigToque]

Originally posted by: Nik
What would I do about it? I'd stop posting my girl problems on the web and get it through my thick skull that I need to grow a pair and solve situations on my own. That's what I'd do.

That's right... emotions are for pussies. Way to put him in his place Nik!