YAGT: So my girlfriend wants to make "new" friends...

[dug777]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: dug777

Originally posted by: HotChic
The amount of hatred towards women in this thread is obscene. Almost every post.

she is getting banged left and right i'm sure.
If your game is tight enough you can get just about any woman to drop her panties.
Women are not logical creatures, they are driven by their emotions more than anything.
She has already cheated on you
It's unbelievable how many women cheat.
woman are cowards and never leave a guy until they have a new one to buy them ****** and inflate their ego
you are a man and she is a whore.
Bitchslap her when she tries to come back because they always do.
they always come back. always like an annoying std.
their girlfriends are getting anally violated by a different drunken frat-boy every weekend
I man'ned up and pour out my heart to bitch the fvck out of her after 2-3hrs of her nagging
ditch the bitch anyway for considering having dinner "1 on 1"
Dump that bitch. Chances are she's already fvcked him. And if she hasn't, she's thinking about it.


I also thought a phrase like "ie, pussy-whipped dickless PC faggots" was ban-worthy.

Nothing like taking a string of comments out of context is there? :roll:

Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

You're trying to make a link between people advising the OP on the situation in the thread, and apparent proof that everyone in this thread hates women

It sure helps to take only the bits that support your argument, and stick them all together in a big list.."OMG ATOT hates teh womenzorxz ban all men!!1!!1!111one!11eleven!'

 

[Ronstang]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

Whether you like it or not, she has either already cheated or is intending to. You can continue to argue from your naive point of view if you like but her actions speak for themselves to anyone with any amount of "people" experience. So, how many girls have you dated?

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: dug777

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: dug777

Originally posted by: HotChic
The amount of hatred towards women in this thread is obscene. Almost every post.

she is getting banged left and right i'm sure.
If your game is tight enough you can get just about any woman to drop her panties.
Women are not logical creatures, they are driven by their emotions more than anything.
She has already cheated on you
It's unbelievable how many women cheat.
woman are cowards and never leave a guy until they have a new one to buy them ****** and inflate their ego
you are a man and she is a whore.
Bitchslap her when she tries to come back because they always do.
they always come back. always like an annoying std.
their girlfriends are getting anally violated by a different drunken frat-boy every weekend
I man'ned up and pour out my heart to bitch the fvck out of her after 2-3hrs of her nagging
ditch the bitch anyway for considering having dinner "1 on 1"
Dump that bitch. Chances are she's already fvcked him. And if she hasn't, she's thinking about it.


I also thought a phrase like "ie, pussy-whipped dickless PC faggots" was ban-worthy.

Nothing like taking a string of comments out of context is there? :roll:

Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

You're trying to make a link between people advising the OP on the situation in the thread, and apparent proof that everyone in this thread hates women

It sure helps to take only the bits that support your argument, and stick them all together in a big list.."OMG ATOT hates teh womenzorxz ban all men!!1!!1!111one!11eleven!'

Point on that one. Not all those comments were directed at all women, though several of them were, and most were derived from "I've got experience with women and this is what your girlfriend will do."

I don't know, I went back and reread every post in the thread and found that most contained a very biting attitude towards women. So sue me, that's what the whole thread reads like to me. I didn't see much reasonable attitude about the fact that she is an independent person and isn't going to act in a foreordained manner.

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: dug777

Originally posted by: HotChic
The amount of hatred towards women in this thread is obscene. Almost every post.

she is getting banged left and right i'm sure.
If your game is tight enough you can get just about any woman to drop her panties.
Women are not logical creatures, they are driven by their emotions more than anything.
She has already cheated on you
It's unbelievable how many women cheat.
woman are cowards and never leave a guy until they have a new one to buy them ****** and inflate their ego
you are a man and she is a whore.
Bitchslap her when she tries to come back because they always do.
they always come back. always like an annoying std.
their girlfriends are getting anally violated by a different drunken frat-boy every weekend
I man'ned up and pour out my heart to bitch the fvck out of her after 2-3hrs of her nagging
ditch the bitch anyway for considering having dinner "1 on 1"
Dump that bitch. Chances are she's already fvcked him. And if she hasn't, she's thinking about it.


I also thought a phrase like "ie, pussy-whipped dickless PC faggots" was ban-worthy.

Nothing like taking a string of comments out of context is there? :roll:

Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

please HotChic stop bsing and trying to pretend as if women don't actually behave like this. I guarantee you have friends in your life that are cheating or have cheated on their SO's. no not all women behave like this all the time, but I'd bet even you have done your share of cheating in your life.

a woman will always trade up if she feels like she has better options out there. i'm not saying there is anything necessarily wrong with that, but the fact is most women are too cowardly to break off their current relationships before starting new ones.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

No, the gist of this thread is that any girl who's spending 1 on 1 time with another guy, and completely not understanding of how her BF feels about it, IS probably cheating or will cheat. Why does she need to go out and make guy friends and have 1-on-1's with them? What does she gain aside from potential lays? NOTHING. Talk about horsesh1t. If it was her and her GIRL friends hanging out with this guy/other guys I'd be less worried. There's no way you can argue that if your BF told you he was going to hang out 1-on-1 with another chick you wouldn't assume the worst. You might not say anything if you're spineless, but most women would have some questions.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: dug777

Originally posted by: HotChic
The amount of hatred towards women in this thread is obscene. Almost every post.

she is getting banged left and right i'm sure.
If your game is tight enough you can get just about any woman to drop her panties.
Women are not logical creatures, they are driven by their emotions more than anything.
She has already cheated on you
It's unbelievable how many women cheat.
woman are cowards and never leave a guy until they have a new one to buy them ****** and inflate their ego
you are a man and she is a whore.
Bitchslap her when she tries to come back because they always do.
they always come back. always like an annoying std.
their girlfriends are getting anally violated by a different drunken frat-boy every weekend
I man'ned up and pour out my heart to bitch the fvck out of her after 2-3hrs of her nagging
ditch the bitch anyway for considering having dinner "1 on 1"
Dump that bitch. Chances are she's already fvcked him. And if she hasn't, she's thinking about it.


I also thought a phrase like "ie, pussy-whipped dickless PC faggots" was ban-worthy.

Nothing like taking a string of comments out of context is there? :roll:

This thread IS the context of those quotes, dug. She's correct. ATOT is a prime example of why young (mostly American) men need better relationships with their mothers. Otherwise, I don't think they'd be saying such misogynistic tripe.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: HotChic
Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

Whether you like it or not, she has either already cheated or is intending to. You can continue to argue from your naive point of view if you like but her actions speak for themselves to anyone with any amount of "people" experience. So, how many girls have you dated?

You have no proof that she has cheated or is going to, so your argument there is based on completely nothing but personal experience. And not everybody shares your experience. In my group of friends, we've never had a situation where anybody (male or female) cheated on a partner. So it DOES happen, some women DO have integrity, some people CAN have friendships with multiple genders.

You've invented this absolute rule that says, "all women do this," based on your experiences. Since I know women that have not cheated, I can refute your rule and say that not all women do that. I further advance the premise that all we have is 131 words on a single side of the situation and that that is not enough information to diagnose a problem, predict the future or make a statement about what a single human being with free will may choose to do.

Honestly, do you really think you can state exactly what is going to happen based on less than 200 words?

 

[apac]

You approached this rather poorly OP. Instead of telling her how pissed you were, you could have explained that it made you uncomfortable and that you feel the guy has alterior motives. Now she just thinks you're a control freak instead of a loving bf.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
please HotChic stop bsing and trying to pretend as if women don't actually behave like this. I guarantee you have friends in your life that are cheating or have cheated on their SO's. no not all women behave like this all the time, but I'd bet even you have done your share of cheating in your life.

a woman will always trade up if she feels like she has better options out there. i'm not saying there is anything necessarily wrong with that, but the fact is most women are too cowardly to break off their current relationships before starting new ones.

Men cheat as often as women do, and there is not something more or less morally outrageous about a woman doing it to a man. Cheating is cheating, and the propensity for ignoring vows taken or oaths uttered exists in every man and woman.

Knowing that this exists, the question is how one can be so presumptuous as to assume they know what EVERY woman is capable of, without having met the person in question, without knowing their background, their beliefs, their plans for the future.

Just because you're bitter or just because you've been burned does not mean that you have a monopoly on knowledge of human nature.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: dug777

Originally posted by: HotChic
The amount of hatred towards women in this thread is obscene. Almost every post.

she is getting banged left and right i'm sure.
If your game is tight enough you can get just about any woman to drop her panties.
Women are not logical creatures, they are driven by their emotions more than anything.
She has already cheated on you
It's unbelievable how many women cheat.
woman are cowards and never leave a guy until they have a new one to buy them ****** and inflate their ego
you are a man and she is a whore.
Bitchslap her when she tries to come back because they always do.
they always come back. always like an annoying std.
their girlfriends are getting anally violated by a different drunken frat-boy every weekend
I man'ned up and pour out my heart to bitch the fvck out of her after 2-3hrs of her nagging
ditch the bitch anyway for considering having dinner "1 on 1"
Dump that bitch. Chances are she's already fvcked him. And if she hasn't, she's thinking about it.


I also thought a phrase like "ie, pussy-whipped dickless PC faggots" was ban-worthy.

Nothing like taking a string of comments out of context is there? :roll:

Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

please HotChic stop bsing and trying to pretend as if women don't actually behave like this. I guarantee you have friends in your life that are cheating or have cheated on their SO's. no not all women behave like this all the time, but I'd bet even you have done your share of cheating in your life.

a woman will always trade up if she feels like she has better options out there. i'm not saying there is anything necessarily wrong with that, but the fact is most women are too cowardly to break off their current relationships before starting new ones.

I never said women don't behave like this. I said ALL women do not behave like this and therefore you cannot make a definitive statement that the woman in this thread has cheated or will cheat. I know coworkers that have cheated, but none of my friends have.

I have never cheated. My ex boyfriend, my (male) best friend, several other of my (male) friends, and my husband are members of this board. Why don't you ask them?

 

[TuxDave]

Say you want to meet this guy also and try to get yourself to go along to dinner with them. That's right... crash that other guy's fun. :evil:

 

[AbAbber2k]

The simple fact is, she JUST met this guy and is already scheduling alone time with him. That's bullshit. Anyone that can't see it is blind. If she'd known him for a while and they gradually became friends... great. That doesn't mean the OP should still be 100% cool about it, just that the situation would be less "fishy" (as I believe you put it).

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: HotChic
Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

Whether you like it or not, she has either already cheated or is intending to. You can continue to argue from your naive point of view if you like but her actions speak for themselves to anyone with any amount of "people" experience. So, how many girls have you dated?

You have no proof that she has cheated or is going to, so your argument there is based on completely nothing but personal experience. And not everybody shares your experience. In my group of friends, we've never had a situation where anybody (male or female) cheated on a partner. So it DOES happen, some women DO have integrity, some people CAN have friendships with multiple genders.

You've invented this absolute rule that says, "all women do this," based on your experiences. Since I know women that have not cheated, I can refute your rule and say that not all women do that. I further advance the premise that all we have is 131 words on a single side of the situation and that that is not enough information to diagnose a problem, predict the future or make a statement about what a single human being with free will may choose to do.

Honestly, do you really think you can state exactly what is going to happen based on less than 200 words?

Statistically speaking.... a man and woman hanging out alone can lead to so much more.
I mean, would you have a problem with your man hanging out with other "NEW" females he just met. Furthermore... would you do anything about it if he proceeded to tell you that you are being irrational and made a "BIG" deal about it.

We may not have the full story... but lets just say.... most stories that start like this, don't end with "Happily ever after"

I've seen "GOOD" girls go out and act on their impulse. Men are just as guilty.... so I guess I'm speaking in regards to the situation itself. If the roles were reversed, I'd tell the girl most likely her man is prolly looking for some tail and she better assess her relationship rather quickly.

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
please HotChic stop bsing and trying to pretend as if women don't actually behave like this. I guarantee you have friends in your life that are cheating or have cheated on their SO's. no not all women behave like this all the time, but I'd bet even you have done your share of cheating in your life.

a woman will always trade up if she feels like she has better options out there. i'm not saying there is anything necessarily wrong with that, but the fact is most women are too cowardly to break off their current relationships before starting new ones.

Men cheat as often as women do, and there is not something more or less morally outrageous about a woman doing it to a man. Cheating is cheating, and the propensity for ignoring vows taken or oaths uttered exists in every man and woman.

Knowing that this exists, the question is how one can be so presumptuous as to assume they know what EVERY woman is capable of, without having met the person in question, without knowing their background, their beliefs, their plans for the future.

Just because you're bitter or just because you've been burned does not mean that you have a monopoly on knowledge of human nature.

it's not a matter of being bitter about the situation, it's about being realistic and seeing the red flags and taking action before the ****** hits the fan. nobody here has anything to gain by telling this guy to go break up with his girlfriend, hell if anything we are doing him a favor. enough guys here on this board have been in the OP's situation so we are merely imparting our advice based on what his GF has done to him.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: AbAbber2k
The simple fact is, she JUST met this guy and is already scheduling alone time with him. That's bullshit. Anyone that can't see it is blind. If she'd known him for a while and they gradually became friends... great. That doesn't mean the OP should still be 100% cool about it, just that the situation would be less "fishy" (as I believe you put it).

In the end, I agree with this statement. I do not think it would be 100% appropriate for her to meet with him 1 on 1 in such a setting. Given that, the appropriate response would be for him to speak to her about this, and if she insists, he needs to reflect on whether he wants to remain in the relationship.

There's no need for slander or hateful speech in this sort of discussion, but I suppose I shouldn't be surprised that the omniscient tweens of ATOT managed to work it in.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: frankgomez75

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: HotChic
Are you going to argue that the gist of this thread isn't "dump that bitch, she will inevitably cheat on you"? Or that those comments, in or out of context, were appropriate? Or that the context was any different than the comments themselves?

Whether you like it or not, she has either already cheated or is intending to. You can continue to argue from your naive point of view if you like but her actions speak for themselves to anyone with any amount of "people" experience. So, how many girls have you dated?

You have no proof that she has cheated or is going to, so your argument there is based on completely nothing but personal experience. And not everybody shares your experience. In my group of friends, we've never had a situation where anybody (male or female) cheated on a partner. So it DOES happen, some women DO have integrity, some people CAN have friendships with multiple genders.

You've invented this absolute rule that says, "all women do this," based on your experiences. Since I know women that have not cheated, I can refute your rule and say that not all women do that. I further advance the premise that all we have is 131 words on a single side of the situation and that that is not enough information to diagnose a problem, predict the future or make a statement about what a single human being with free will may choose to do.

Honestly, do you really think you can state exactly what is going to happen based on less than 200 words?

Statistically speaking.... a man and woman hanging out alone can lead to so much more.
I mean, would you have a problem with your man hanging out with other "NEW" females he just met. Furthermore... would you do anything about it if he proceeded to tell you that you are being irrational and made a "BIG" deal about it.

We may not have the full story... but lets just say.... most stories that start like this, don't end with "Happily ever after"

I've seen "GOOD" girls go out and act on their impulse. Men are just as guilty.... so I guess I'm speaking in regards to the situation itself. If the roles were reversed, I'd tell the girl most likely her man is prolly looking for some tail and she better assess her relationship rather quickly.

Fair enough.

To be honest, I don't have a problem when my husband hangs out with women, either in groups or one on one. Part of marriage to me is trust, and I wouldn't have married him if I didn't trust him that far. I would, however, expect him to respect my feelings and wishes in the matter (which is how I advised the OP - to request that she listens to how he feels about it regardless of what she thinks)

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: AbAbber2k
The simple fact is, she JUST met this guy and is already scheduling alone time with him. That's bullshit. Anyone that can't see it is blind. If she'd known him for a while and they gradually became friends... great. That doesn't mean the OP should still be 100% cool about it, just that the situation would be less "fishy" (as I believe you put it).

In the end, I agree with this statement. I do not think it would be 100% appropriate for her to meet with him 1 on 1 in such a setting. Given that, the appropriate response would be for him to speak to her about this, and if she insists, he needs to reflect on whether he wants to remain in the relationship.

There's no need for slander or hateful speech in this sort of discussion, but I suppose I shouldn't be surprised that the omniscient tweens of ATOT managed to work it in.

don't cry because we are willing to call a spade a spade.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
please HotChic stop bsing and trying to pretend as if women don't actually behave like this. I guarantee you have friends in your life that are cheating or have cheated on their SO's. no not all women behave like this all the time, but I'd bet even you have done your share of cheating in your life.

a woman will always trade up if she feels like she has better options out there. i'm not saying there is anything necessarily wrong with that, but the fact is most women are too cowardly to break off their current relationships before starting new ones.

Men cheat as often as women do, and there is not something more or less morally outrageous about a woman doing it to a man. Cheating is cheating, and the propensity for ignoring vows taken or oaths uttered exists in every man and woman.

Knowing that this exists, the question is how one can be so presumptuous as to assume they know what EVERY woman is capable of, without having met the person in question, without knowing their background, their beliefs, their plans for the future.

Just because you're bitter or just because you've been burned does not mean that you have a monopoly on knowledge of human nature.

it's not a matter of being bitter about the situation, it's about being realistic and seeing the red flags and taking action before the ****** hits the fan. nobody here has anything to gain by telling this guy to go break up with his girlfriend, hell if anything we are doing him a favor. enough guys here on this board have been in the OP's situation so we are merely imparting our advice based on what his GF has done to him.

I was accused of taking comments out of context earlier - do the few summary words he wrote about the situation, taken out of the context of their lives, personalities and relationship, really enable ATOT to give thoughtful advice?

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
please HotChic stop bsing and trying to pretend as if women don't actually behave like this. I guarantee you have friends in your life that are cheating or have cheated on their SO's. no not all women behave like this all the time, but I'd bet even you have done your share of cheating in your life.

a woman will always trade up if she feels like she has better options out there. i'm not saying there is anything necessarily wrong with that, but the fact is most women are too cowardly to break off their current relationships before starting new ones.

Men cheat as often as women do, and there is not something more or less morally outrageous about a woman doing it to a man. Cheating is cheating, and the propensity for ignoring vows taken or oaths uttered exists in every man and woman.

Knowing that this exists, the question is how one can be so presumptuous as to assume they know what EVERY woman is capable of, without having met the person in question, without knowing their background, their beliefs, their plans for the future.

Just because you're bitter or just because you've been burned does not mean that you have a monopoly on knowledge of human nature.

well put. the problem with this situation is that it is a "NEW" friend of the opposite sex. No one I know ever hangs out with someone of the opposite sex "ALONE" when they just met. Making matters worse is the fact that the OP said his GF was making a big deal about it. That sends up red flags. You are correct in that we can't assume that she has already been unfaithful... but lets just say she ain't making the situation look so innocent anymore.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
it's not a matter of being bitter about the situation, it's about being realistic and seeing the red flags and taking action before the ****** hits the fan. nobody here has anything to gain by telling this guy to go break up with his girlfriend, hell if anything we are doing him a favor. enough guys here on this board have been in the OP's situation so we are merely imparting our advice based on what his GF has done to him.

You have not met either person in question, and you do not know them well enough to make any sort of substantive statement about their nature or what their actions mean.

You have plenty to gain. You have the psychological satisfaction of putting one over that bitch that hurt you those years ago. You act as though you're doing him some sort of favor. You're taking your own perception of a far-off situation and you're twisting it to fit your vision of what women are like.

I don't disagree that her actions are improper, and I agree that her insistence could be seen as a red flag. However, I would not think to judge her so absolutely given such limited information.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: AbAbber2k
The simple fact is, she JUST met this guy and is already scheduling alone time with him. That's bullshit. Anyone that can't see it is blind. If she'd known him for a while and they gradually became friends... great. That doesn't mean the OP should still be 100% cool about it, just that the situation would be less "fishy" (as I believe you put it).

In the end, I agree with this statement. I do not think it would be 100% appropriate for her to meet with him 1 on 1 in such a setting. Given that, the appropriate response would be for him to speak to her about this, and if she insists, he needs to reflect on whether he wants to remain in the relationship.

There's no need for slander or hateful speech in this sort of discussion, but I suppose I shouldn't be surprised that the omniscient tweens of ATOT managed to work it in.

don't cry because we are willing to call a spade a spade.

My question is how you can possibly know enough from the post to call it anything so definitively bad!

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

ok obviously we all are going to have to agree to disagree on this issue. despite what orosum may think, the only satisfaction i'd get from this situation is seeing the OP make it through this without any serious emotional bruises.

the behavior of his GF is extremely fishy, and yes it does remind me of past experiences I and many others have had. your right in that I do not know his GF, but the fact that she is getting mad at him for not being cool with her going on "one-on-one" dates is very disrespectful and selfish of her IMHO. she should realize that no self-respecting man on the planet is going to be completely ok with something like that.

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
it's not a matter of being bitter about the situation, it's about being realistic and seeing the red flags and taking action before the ****** hits the fan. nobody here has anything to gain by telling this guy to go break up with his girlfriend, hell if anything we are doing him a favor. enough guys here on this board have been in the OP's situation so we are merely imparting our advice based on what his GF has done to him.

You have not met either person in question, and you do not know them well enough to make any sort of substantive statement about their nature or what their actions mean.

You have plenty to gain. You have the psychological satisfaction of putting one over that bitch that hurt you those years ago. You act as though you're doing him some sort of favor. You're taking your own perception of a far-off situation and you're twisting it to fit your vision of what women are like.

I don't disagree that her actions are improper, and I agree that her insistence could be seen as a red flag. However, I would not think to judge her so absolutely given such limited information.

More wise advise. :thumbsup:
Hopefully the OP's GF has remained faithful and was honestly just wanting to hang out with someon new in a non-threatening way. However, I do question the motives of the other guy.

You and your GF need to have a serious talk. If you guys are having problems than perhaps this is why she wants to go out with someone else. If not, than maybe you ain't got nothing to worry about. The question is... how much do you trust her?

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
ok obviously we all are going to have to agree to disagree on this issue. despite what orosum may think, the only satisfaction i'd get from this situation is seeing the OP make it through this without any serious emotional bruises.

the behavior of his GF is extremely fishy, and yes it does remind me of past experiences I and many others have had. your right in that I do not know his GF, but the fact that she is getting mad at him for not being cool with her going on "one-on-one" dates is very disrespectful and selfish of her IMHO. she should realize that no self-respecting man on the planet is going to be completely ok with something like that.

We can at least agree about your second paragraph. My opinion is that she should respect his feeling because she cares about him, no matter how valid she considers it, and that if she doesn't do that, he should reconsider the relationship (not because she's sure to cheat, but because she's not putting him high enough in her priorities, the only thing he can be sure of.)

Bedtime for me. Good night.

 

[petejk]

dude...seriously...drop her ass

same thing happened to me...and the ending wasn't good...


besides...if she truly loved you...she wouldn't need attention from any other man...