YAGT: So my girlfriend went to chill with a guy friend...

[jman19]

Originally posted by: hungfarover

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
Update #2
We decided that we need to compromise to stay in our relationship and we arranged an agreement list of things when it comes to socializing with the opposite gender.
We've listed few things like no "1on1" date like settings, no giving phone numbers, introducing them first and etc. I guess I can be pretty satisfied as long as she acts accordingly.
Anything you guys think I should add to the list?

are you going to have to catch her fvcking someone else before you get wise to her game? you are BEING PLAYED.

look we aren't saying this because we're mean, we're saying this from experience. i was an idiot when i was 22 and "in love" and i turned a blind eye to nonsence like you're doing right now. in the end, i walked in on her and my roommate fvcking in our living room at 4am.

we finally broke up. i learned a hard lesson.

keep going down this path and you will be me someday, i guarantee it.

I hope you kicked the sh!t out of your roommate.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: jman19

Originally posted by: hungfarover

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
Update #2
We decided that we need to compromise to stay in our relationship and we arranged an agreement list of things when it comes to socializing with the opposite gender.
We've listed few things like no "1on1" date like settings, no giving phone numbers, introducing them first and etc. I guess I can be pretty satisfied as long as she acts accordingly.
Anything you guys think I should add to the list?

are you going to have to catch her fvcking someone else before you get wise to her game? you are BEING PLAYED.

look we aren't saying this because we're mean, we're saying this from experience. i was an idiot when i was 22 and "in love" and i turned a blind eye to nonsence like you're doing right now. in the end, i walked in on her and my roommate fvcking in our living room at 4am.

we finally broke up. i learned a hard lesson.

keep going down this path and you will be me someday, i guarantee it.

I hope you kicked the sh!t out of your roommate.

:Q OMG! Funny in a horrible way, but damn. Details please!

 

[Chryso]

Originally posted by: hungfarover

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
Update #2
We decided that we need to compromise to stay in our relationship and we arranged an agreement list of things when it comes to socializing with the opposite gender.
We've listed few things like no "1on1" date like settings, no giving phone numbers, introducing them first and etc. I guess I can be pretty satisfied as long as she acts accordingly.
Anything you guys think I should add to the list?

are you going to have to catch her fvcking someone else before you get wise to her game? you are BEING PLAYED.

look we aren't saying this because we're mean, we're saying this from experience. i was an idiot when i was 22 and "in love" and i turned a blind eye to nonsence like you're doing right now. in the end, i walked in on her and my roommate fvcking in our living room at 4am.

So did you act cool and just take off your pants and join in?

 

[w00t]

sorry, man but i went with option 1

without trust your not in a real relationship

 

[Atrail]

dude in a matter of weeks to months this thing is over
start preparing now

 

[TheGizmo]

Originally posted by: Atrail
dude in a matter of weeks to months this thing is over
start preparing now

qft.. been there done that... ha, dump her now while you still have some dignity

 

[hoodlikegaza]

Just to keep it real with you, I don't "hang out" 1 on 1 with any female unless theres a possibility of getting the pussy. And it has to be a very good possibility at that. If she was gone that long, then try to act like it's all good, I'm sorry to say bro, she was probably ****** the cat. Since you don't have proof, I would suggest you just watch closely. Odd phone calls, her rushing people off the phone when shes with you. It's not that hard. The best advice I can give you, is since you aren't sure, you need to just handle your busy until you are sure. I'm not sure how old you are, but I will tell you this, I have dealt with more females than I can possibly remember. And even though it might not be morally right depending on who you ask, if i even think a girl is doing something shady, I keep my options open (if you know what I mean). But seriously that situation sounds very suspect, and you should not let it slide like that. If she can't accept the fact that you won't tolerate her being out for hours at a time with some dude you never even met, you should definately either start being more assertive in your relationship, do your thing, or cut her loose. That is definately some ****** that would be checked if it were me.

 

[araczynski]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
Update #2
We decided that we need to compromise to stay in our relationship and we arranged an agreement list of things when it comes to socializing with the opposite gender.
We've listed few things like no "1on1" date like settings, no giving phone numbers, introducing them first and etc. I guess I can be pretty satisfied as long as she acts accordingly.
Anything you guys think I should add to the list?

here's what i'm seeing: young and insecure (you). I don't mean that as an insult, believe me. you are who you are, you can work on that IF you want. I say IF because you can be whatever you want to be in life, you don't have to bend over for anybody to make them like you.

as for advice, since i'm assuming you're young. DUMP HER, don't waste time on debating it over why this or that, don't waste your time with excuse to her or yourself, move on with your life. BELIEVE ME THERE'S TONS OF OTHER WOMEN OUT THERE... AND... THEY'RE BETTER THEN THIS 'THING' YOU GOT STUCK WITH.

if you don't like something in your life, dump it. life is too short to put up with crap, you won't realize this for a little while longer, and then you'll hate yourself for wasting time.

granted, experience is the best teacher, but if at all possible, take the shortcut and take our advice. move on, you'll have less stress in your life and you'll find someone that respects you.

you are going to be in a world of hurt if you ever decide to get hitched to her.

i knew a girl like that in college, she used to let me 'have some' from time to time and the whole time she had a serious boyfriend at home somewhere. she ended up getting pregnant a few years later with someone else, and had to drop out of college.

anyway, dump her, don't waste time with emails or anything, leave her a message "our relationship is over, don't waste your time calling and crying."

then screen your calls for the next 2 weeks.

 

[pontifex]

wow, this thread is still going on? has the op posted since his last update?

 

[Iron Addict]

uhhhh.. there's really no updates... we are koo now...

 

[NicePants42]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
uhhhh.. there's really no updates... we are koo now...

That's kind of anti-climatic.

 

[Iron Addict]

Originally posted by: NicePants42

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
uhhhh.. there's really no updates... we are koo now...

That's kind of anti-climatic.

fine. there was make up sex.

 

[slsmnaz]

Originally posted by: NicePants42

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
uhhhh.. there's really no updates... we are koo now...

That's kind of anti-climatic.

Maybe that's Iron's problem.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict

Originally posted by: NicePants42

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
uhhhh.. there's really no updates... we are koo now...

That's kind of anti-climatic.

fine. there was make up sex.

Did you watch while that dude had his way with her or something?

I fail to see how any sane person could continue hanging on to such a fvcked up relationship.

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Um, ask her how she would feel if you were out until 1:30AM with another woman. It's hard to see the other side until you're on it.

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Better yet, go do it and show her how it feels.

I guarantee that she will find a "difference" between the two and be mad at you, but expect you not to be mad at her.

 

[NicePants42]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict

Originally posted by: NicePants42

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
uhhhh.. there's really no updates... we are koo now...

That's kind of anti-climatic.

fine. there was make up sex.

As long as it was between you and her, that sounds good.

 

[Hav0k99]

I am so sick of these cookie cutter threads. ATOTer posts a thread about problems with GF. Even though he ONLY wants to here that it's ok and there is nothing wrong. When it's clear to the rest of the ATOTers that he is being screwed. After 5-10 thread pages. He finaly updates with EVERYTHING is swell now.


Has there been one ATOTer who has come out and said "I dumed her!"??!?!