Originally posted by: reverend boltron
Originally posted by: Iron Addict
Why she is mad:
1. She thinks I'm mad because I was jealous that she went out with some guys late.
2. She thinks I have no trust in her.
3. She thinks I'm doing this because I like to be in the "control."
4. She thinks it was perfectly okay to not to call me, because coming home late isn't something that big of a deal since she's done it many times before with me and her friends.
5. She hates the fact that I swear or hang up the phone when Im too fraustrated or mad.
6. She thinks she's the perfect girlfriend and I dont appreciate that.
Why I am mad:
1. She does NOT understand why I was mad. I wasn't upset because I was jealous. I was upset cause I was so worried about her safety and well being.
2. She doesn't understand why I have no trust in her. It's not because of her "evil" intentions that I can't trust her, yet because of her lack of "common sense." (As you can see in another thread and many other examples I havent mentioned.)
3. She thinks her guy "friends" are her true friends. (uhhh... sure)
4. She thinks I'm such a horrible boyfriend for being upset and getting worked up like this.
5. She CANNOT admit or realize that it was her mistake.
I really wish I could be with my gf or even marry her in future. But, the part of her where she can't even see what she did wrong or admit her mistakes just pisses me off. This kind of problems will probably visit me again unless she's willing to open her mind and see her mistakes which probably wont happen. I dont know if I should break up with her or not as of now.
Man, you have to learn to relax and not let your anger get the best of you. Seriously, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. When you act like a jackass, you'll get treated like one. Swearing and hanging up on the phone is what turns people
away from you. You have to grow up a little. I'm not trying to come down on you, but you have to hear it, because if you don't, you'll continue to do this, drive people away, and end up unhappy for a long time.
If I were you, I'd apologize to your girlfriend for acting like a tool, and work on growing up. Either that, or break up with her, let her live her life, and stay single until you mature a bit and are ready for a relationship. Not trying to be mean.