YAGT: Social Proof

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: Pandaren

Stop worrying so much. Just hang out with people and you will meet plenty of girls.

In the meantime, if part of what you are after is the affection and companionship of a living creature, get a cat or some sort of pet. People need to feel loved and needed and a cat is excellent for that. Now if only my apartment building allowed pets

And chicks really like cute animals.

totally. im a really affectionate guy and I would love to have an animal. But yea, during the school year I live in the dorms at school, and when I'm at my house over the summer, I cant have pets there either because my mom has allergies.

 

[RbSX]

Okay, so you're a bit old for being one of the kids in the youth groups. How about being one of the organizers? I went to one of my girlfriend's youth groups a while ago, the organizers were 20-25 years old. Maybe you should volunteer to be one of those.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: skywalker66

HotChic
Yep. Best way to meet girls you like is to do things you like, and run into girls who are there doing the same stuff you like doing!

Unfortunately I doubt I can find a girl who is into playing computer games. I know they exist but the ratio of them is far less than men, so getting a girl like that would be very hard to do.

I suppose I could always just change my hobbies, to ones that allow me to meet more people (girls in particular)

Jeez man , i like to play computer games too, but that hasn't stopped me from getting a girlfriend. If you go to a Christian college then there should be tons of little christian groups that get together and do stuff. Join one of those

By the way, no one said you have to change who you are, but you will definitely increase your chances of meeting girls. Sometimes girls just dont like certian aspects of you, if you're ok with that and move on, fine. BUt if you want to get them then you gotta improve on yourself, like not play video games all day long

Hey man. My first girlfriend knew as much (if not more) about computers than I did. One day she came over to my place, and for entertainment, we cracked a windows NT machine that i didn't know the password to. She also played tons of video games.

My currently girlfriend used to play CS and Diablo 2..

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: KirbsAw
this thread makes me sad

It makes BABY JESUS WANNA CRY (no pun intended)

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: LethalWolfe
HotChic,
Great posts.

Skywalker66,
Why do you post looking for advise and then shoot down very good, very solid advice that many different people agree with? People are trying to help you but you argrue w/them because it's not what you want to hear. Either take people's advice or stop asking for it.


Lethal

maybe I'm asking the wrong kind of people for advice. Or maybe I just need to read over this again. I like it when different people offer multiple options of advice.

I hate it when I get a unanimous answer such as: "just wait, and improve on your own life in the mean time, bla bla bla, and when that special moment happens, it will happen, bla bla bla."

I'm looking for any other options besides that,

on this forum, I havent heard many other options, but on another forum where I posted this, I have heard some good advice/options: such as people telling me that I just need to act less desperate, and to make myself look appealing in front of the girls, etc. become a player essentially.

and I think thats exactly what I'm going to do, I'm going to become a player. Not play girls for sex, but play girls for a relationship. I guarantee you that if I get my game on right, I can make a Christian girl fall prey to me.

AND what's with all this crap about how you people dont think I'm looking for a Christian type of girl? I think I totally am. After all I'm a Christian, and I want someone who shares the same beliefs as me.

 

[BD2003]

LOL, you are not going to be a player. Any attempt to do so is only going to make you look even more ridiculous in front of women.

 

[thomsbrain]

replace "christian" with "white" and i'll thing you'll see your main problem.

i hate to break it to you, but "non-christians" are human beings, too.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: LethalWolfe
HotChic,
Great posts.

Skywalker66,
Why do you post looking for advise and then shoot down very good, very solid advice that many different people agree with? People are trying to help you but you argrue w/them because it's not what you want to hear. Either take people's advice or stop asking for it.


Lethal

maybe I'm asking the wrong kind of people for advice. Or maybe I just need to read over this again. I like it when different people offer multiple options of advice.

I hate it when I get a unanimous answer such as: "just wait, and improve on your own life in the mean time, bla bla bla, and when that special moment happens, it will happen, bla bla bla."

I'm looking for any other options besides that,

on this forum, I havent heard many other options, but on another forum where I posted this, I have heard some good advice/options: such as people telling me that I just need to act less desperate, and to make myself look appealing in front of the girls, etc. become a player essentially.

and I think thats exactly what I'm going to do, I'm going to become a player. Not play girls for sex, but play girls for a relationship. I guarantee you that if I get my game on right, I can make a Christian girl fall prey to me.

AND what's with all this crap about how you people dont think I'm looking for a Christian type of girl? I think I totally am. After all I'm a Christian, and I want someone who shares the same beliefs as me.

You've not read anything in this thread. Guys playing girls, doesn't work. We're expendable.

You're a social failure, pull your head out of your ass.

 

[RegularK]

Maybe you can't get a girl because you say stuff like this:

Originally posted by: skywalker66


and I think thats exactly what I'm going to do, I'm going to become a player. Not play girls for sex, but play girls for a relationship. I guarantee you that if I get my game on right, I can make a Christian girl fall prey to me.

just a thought.

Cheers,
KiM

 

[Excelsior]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: LethalWolfe
HotChic,
Great posts.

Skywalker66,
Why do you post looking for advise and then shoot down very good, very solid advice that many different people agree with? People are trying to help you but you argrue w/them because it's not what you want to hear. Either take people's advice or stop asking for it.


Lethal

maybe I'm asking the wrong kind of people for advice. Or maybe I just need to read over this again. I like it when different people offer multiple options of advice.

I hate it when I get a unanimous answer such as: "just wait, and improve on your own life in the mean time, bla bla bla, and when that special moment happens, it will happen, bla bla bla."

I'm looking for any other options besides that,

on this forum, I havent heard many other options, but on another forum where I posted this, I have heard some good advice/options: such as people telling me that I just need to act less desperate, and to make myself look appealing in front of the girls, etc. become a player essentially.

and I think thats exactly what I'm going to do, I'm going to become a player. Not play girls for sex, but play girls for a relationship. I guarantee you that if I get my game on right, I can make a Christian girl fall prey to me.

AND what's with all this crap about how you people dont think I'm looking for a Christian type of girl? I think I totally am. After all I'm a Christian, and I want someone who shares the same beliefs as me.

You've not read anything in this thread. Guys playing girls, doesn't work. We're expendable.

You're a social failure, pull your head out of your ass.

Yes. And you aren't really looking for different "options", you just want people to tell you what you want to hear. If you really cared youd consider everything. Just stop trying to get advice on here, because we will all most likely echo HotChic, who is CORRECT.

 

[skywalker66]

Yes. And you aren't really looking for different "options", you just want people to tell you what you want to hear. If you really cared youd consider everything. Just stop trying to get advice on here, because we will all most likely echo HotChic, who is CORRECT.

alright,
so If I dont become a player...

but I instead join some clubs, and meet some chicks that way, "the natural way" who have the same interests/hobbies, etc, then will you guys shut up?

Maybe you can't get a girl because you say stuff like this:

Look, I am in a pissy mood. And girls are dumb for not wanting me the desperate way that I am, so I need to counter that somehow, right? Might as well put on a show and make it seem like I'm not desperate so that they will like me.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
alright,
so If I dont become a player...

but I instead join some clubs, and meet some chicks that way, "the natural way" who have the same interests/hobbies, etc, then will you guys shut up?

Maybe you can't get a girl because you say stuff like this:

Look, I am in a pissy mood. And girls are dumb for not wanting me the desperate way that I am, so I need to counter that somehow, right? Might as well put on a show and make it seem like I'm not desperate so that they will like.

Nonono, you've taken this all wrong man. Girls aren't dumb for not wanting you. Being appealing to women is a challenge, you have to impress them, just being desperate isn't helping you. I guess part of the thing thats appealing about me for women is the fact that i'm not desperate for a girlfriend, i'm a bit of a challenge, and it shows that i'm not going to be emotional baggage for them.

Edit: You're really over thinking things here. Just be who you are, eventually someone will find you appealing. The thing you need is exposure. It doesn't matter who you are, if no one ever sees you. I think thats what we're all tryin to say.

 

[skywalker66]

PS: Thanks for the advice everyone, I will use some of it. You dont need to feel that it all went to waste.
Hopefully I will be able to come back, not too long from now, with a girlfriend.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
PS: Thanks for the advice everyone, I will use some of it. You dont need to feel that it all went to waste.
Hopefully I will be able to come back, not too long from now, with a girlfriend.

One final lesson my yound padawan.

Having a girlfriend isn't the most important thing in the world. You have to sacrifice like there is no tommorow to have one.

I've had to sacrifice most of my female friedns, because my girlfriend doesn't anyone.

Sometimes it's almost better to have a number of female friends that are good friends, rather than one single girlfriend.

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Yes. And you aren't really looking for different "options", you just want people to tell you what you want to hear. If you really cared youd consider everything. Just stop trying to get advice on here, because we will all most likely echo HotChic, who is CORRECT.

alright,
so If I dont become a player...

but I instead join some clubs, and meet some chicks that way, "the natural way" who have the same interests/hobbies, etc, then will you guys shut up?

Maybe you can't get a girl because you say stuff like this:

Look, I am in a pissy mood. And girls are dumb for not wanting me the desperate way that I am, so I need to counter that somehow, right? Might as well put on a show and make it seem like I'm not desperate so that they will like me.

Wrong. Girls are not dumb for wanting your the desperate way that you are. Theyre very, very smart.

Because listen to you. Youre so caught up in getting a girl that youre losing sight completely. Youre objectifying women, and women DO NOT like to be objectified. They are not prey to be caught.

Youre so desperate that youre willing to go out with anyone, but what that means is that who your GF is is meaningless, as long as she's your girl. Would you want someone dating you that didnt give a crap who you were, but they are going out with you only to feel better about themselves?

Women are human beings, and youre never going to get one until you start treating them like people.

 

[DigDug]

How about praying to God for a girlfriend?

This is THE WITTIEST REPLY I'VE EVER READ on ATOT! Unless Melly was being sincere. In either case, good job, Melly!

 

[DigDug]

I guarantee you that if I get my game on right, I can make a Christian girl fall prey to me.

Ahh, now he's really being christian! Plunder! Conquer!

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Getting women isn't an objective, it's a side track. Most girls that like(d) me were complete flukes or accidents.

again, i dont like this philosophy, because this means that I would have no control over my life or when I get the things that I want, or even if I get them.

I dont think I am going to meet a women, unless I go out and find her. This accident $hit aint true. If I rely on meeting my girl by chance, I will probably never meet her.

SO how do you explain the COUNTLESS guys on ATOT that have GOTTEN a gf/ wife this EXACT WAY? It has to be working with the numbers here with gf/ wives.

You just need to have some patience and STOP CHASING too much. If you want to chase go to a club or bar you will meet people that want to be chased or are out chasing.

Koing

 

[Mo0o]

I have to ask, are you overweight? How are you in the looks department. Granted basing everything on that is pretty shallow, but looks definitely play a factor.

And during classes, are you a pretty talkative guy? Or are you one ofthose people that sit in the corner and never talk. And what do you do in the dorms, do you always stay in your dorm room playing video games, or do you go around to other people's rooms to chat and stuff. Personality has a huge role in attracting girls, as im sure you know by now.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Props to you, HC, for taking the time to try and explain it to Skywalker...patience is a virtue. I don't understand why he isn't heeding advice of females. This is his #1223355679211 post on how to get a girl and he still won't hear what we have to say...personally I don't think it has anything to do with religion or waiting for the tide to roll in (whatever), and lots of inexperienced people also giving their 0.02. I think you hit the nail on the head when you suggested he develop other parts of his life (or lack, thereof).

So maybe I do ask a lot of questions that are different every time, but lead to the same main question, "how can i get a girl?"
and you guys and girls have basically given one answer: "get a life instead"

and I refuse to accept that answer, because I see people around me who ALWAYS are dating somebody. people who just are blessed in the relationships realm, and enjoying a part of life that I'm not experiencing.
I guess what this comes down to is that I want a different answer. I want to be told how to become one of those people, instead of being told: 'leave it up to the hands of fate'

DUDE short end of the stick:

9inch's
6 pack
$250k in the bank
flash cars
big house

More then one of these combinations WILL land you a girl to date.

The 2nd bolded part is simple. The people you see have GAME. They are fun loving people/ arrogant/ cocky/ funny/ confident/ happy with themselves and life/ happy to mingle with people and not date. THESE people you see about are happy to do stuff. They go out and enjoy life. They have hobbies they enjoy with friends from ANY CULTURE. They go drink, play some pool, shoot some hoops. They do 'stuff'.

IF you see people around who are always dating why don't you go to talk to one of them? THEN you can get 1st hand answers from a person. I'm sure they will be some what flattered that someone is asking them about this sort of thing.

Some people have it with women and some don't. If you can talk are fun to be with. YOU HAVE IT. You will get boat loads of dates and have a bunch of friends. They most probably will have friends who they meet girls with also.

More friends = more possible girls that are friends of those friends.

ALSO if you haven't dated much by the time you are 50yr you will HAVE LOADS of women to date. By that time most women really want to date a guy. WHO can look after himself and isn't a total ass.

ANOTHER thing PLENTY of girls play video games. They may not be hardcore in to it but they play. PS2 is so popular now a days everyone has one and they play it.

Koing

 

[amdguy]

how much is an average castration surgery in the states?
I have a way where you can do it for free, spend $10 on a can of compressed air, invert it and spray it at your Penis until it freezes and gently knock it off.

viola....all ur girl problems are frozen and gone~~!!

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Wrong. Girls are not dumb for wanting your the desperate way that you are. Theyre very, very smart.

Because listen to you. Youre so caught up in getting a girl that youre losing sight completely. Youre objectifying women, and women DO NOT like to be objectified. They are not prey to be caught.

Youre so desperate that youre willing to go out with anyone, but what that means is that who your GF is is meaningless, as long as she's your girl. Would you want someone dating you that didnt give a crap who you were, but they are going out with you only to feel better about themselves?

Women are human beings, and youre never going to get one until you start treating them like people.

I can still look for women without being desperate. I just look harder, but keep my standards high.
You guys are failing to see this.

Just because someone is obsessed with trying to find the right girl for him, doesnt mean that he is objectifying women. I think if he is looking for that 'special' woman, then what he is doing is totally okay.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: DigDug

How about praying to God for a girlfriend?

This is THE WITTIEST REPLY I'VE EVER READ on ATOT! Unless Melly was being sincere. In either case, good job, Melly!

PS: I have tried praying before, believe it or not, and it hasnt worked.

If God isnt going to give it to me, it looks like Im just going to have to go out and get it on my own.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: Mo0o
I have to ask, are you overweight? How are you in the looks department. Granted basing everything on that is pretty shallow, but looks definitely play a factor.

And during classes, are you a pretty talkative guy? Or are you one ofthose people that sit in the corner and never talk. And what do you do in the dorms, do you always stay in your dorm room playing video games, or do you go around to other people's rooms to chat and stuff. Personality has a huge role in attracting girls, as im sure you know by now.

No, I'm not overweight. I am told that I am a little above average in the looks department.

During classes I am fairly talkative. In the dorms I waste a lot of time on my computer. Sometimes I talk to people in their rooms and stuff, guys and girls. I guess I'm just not doing enough.

 

[RagingBITCH]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

I can still look for women without being desperate. I just look harder, but keep my standards high.
You guys are failing to see this.

Just because someone is obsessed with trying to find the right girl for him, doesnt mean that he is objectifying women. I think if he is looking for that 'special' woman, then what he is doing is totally okay.

So you went from having a group of friends which is necessary to getting a woman, to you having no confidence in getting a woman, to having high standards for getting women? You sound pretty clueless.