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Originally posted by: Mwilding
sounds like you have a real winner there...
Originally posted by: Rainsford
Originally posted by: Mwilding
sounds like you have a real winner there...
Yeah, no kidding. Her telling you how "delicate" your relationship is is NOT a good thing. It means she accepts whatever problems exist because of your various racial backgrouns as a normal part of the dating process. Unless you are willing to accept that as well, I'd have a nice long talk with her about it.
And personally I don't accept that sort of excuse from anyone. A relationship is, in my mind, between two people. It doesn't matter what her family, my family, her "culture" or mine have to say about it. Letting those factors affect a relationship is a sign of weakness in the relationship if you ask me.
Originally posted by: rgreen83
As someone whose three best friends are a chinese/taiwanese guy, a korean girl, and an indian guy; I would say it is definately her responsibility to inform you of the customs, she needs to do that now or dump her because it will happen again and there are larger cultural no-nos than not saying good-bye. I know I almost lost a friend over crap like that when rex's (chinese/tai guy) parents kicked me out of the house for not taking my shoes off outside! Who the hell would leave their shoes outside in the city?
Originally posted by: polm
I just went to a Korean store with my Korean girlfriend. She is close with the family that runs the store.
My GF always tells me how delicate our relationship is, due to the fact that I am a White Jewish guy. Her cousin even cussed me out last weekend for dating her.
I know absolutely no Korean, and my GF never clues me in to the social intricacies of Korean culture.
But when we went into the store she bowed and spoke exclusively in Korean the entire time. She never introduced me. Never even motioned towards me.
The store owners brought us some candy flavored yogurt which I drank and said thank you twice for.
Then I bought about 20 dollars worth of stuff, and said thank you again.
Then my GF bowed and they shared more Korean with each other.
I started to walk out the door because I thought the conversation was ending with my GF's bow and final exchange of words.
But as I am opening the door to leave, she sais , in a loud enough voice for everyone to hear, "say Good-Bye". I know it doesn't sound like much, but her tone was very demeaning.
I stuttered a "Good-Bye" and ducked out feeling kinda embarrased.
I told my GF that I didnt appreciate the way she handled that situation. That I was uncomfortable to begin with ,and her ignoring me and then talking to me like a child just made it even worse.
She got mad and now she wont talk to me.
Originally posted by: anxi80
i was gonna correct with: "snafu", but i figured perhaps it was done on purpose, adding like a kung fu twist to it or something, i dont know, kinda reaching there...Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
What is a "snaffoo"?
Originally posted by: MAME
Originally posted by: polm
I just went to a Korean store with my Korean girlfriend. She is close with the family that runs the store.
My GF always tells me how delicate our relationship is, due to the fact that I am a White Jewish guy. Her cousin even cussed me out last weekend for dating her.
I know absolutely no Korean, and my GF never clues me in to the social intricacies of Korean culture.
But when we went into the store she bowed and spoke exclusively in Korean the entire time. She never introduced me. Never even motioned towards me.
The store owners brought us some candy flavored yogurt which I drank and said thank you twice for.
Then I bought about 20 dollars worth of stuff, and said thank you again.
Then my GF bowed and they shared more Korean with each other.
I started to walk out the door because I thought the conversation was ending with my GF's bow and final exchange of words.
But as I am opening the door to leave, she sais , in a loud enough voice for everyone to hear, "say Good-Bye". I know it doesn't sound like much, but her tone was very demeaning.
I stuttered a "Good-Bye" and ducked out feeling kinda embarrased.
I told my GF that I didnt appreciate the way she handled that situation. That I was uncomfortable to begin with ,and her ignoring me and then talking to me like a child just made it even worse.
She got mad and now she wont talk to me.
To be fair, you did mess up. She was doing the right thing as far as her culture was concerned and she probably didn't want to mess up anything but you dropped the ball there.
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Kick + Curb = Her
And oh yeah, pics? She'd better be at least an 8.5/10 for you to put up with that bitchy attitude.
- M4H
Originally posted by: iamme
in the end, just buy her a nice, fake Louis Vuitton/Gucci/Burberry/Prada purse and she'll be happy.