YAGT: trust...resolved

[sadb0i]

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[caitlion]

dreams can seem very real sometimes. its hard to know if youre just making things up or not. shell get over it

 

[OulOat]

What is this trust speech?

 

[79Blazer]

Maybe you shouldn't be sneaking out of the house and porking sheep while she is sleeping!
:Q

 

[blackdogdeek]

her having dreams about you cheating is more about her not trusting you more than it is about you actually cheating imo.

 

[Yax]

My wife does that sometimes too, but I laugh it off and she realizes how stupid and insecured she is. Just pork her more often, then she'll feel like you're not cheating on her. If nothing else, you can tell her that if you were cheating on her she wouldn't get it so much.

 

[lancestorm]

Well maybe you shouldn't be AMBUSHING PADINGTON!

 

[samgau]

Originally posted by: lancestorm
Well maybe you shouldn't be AMBUSHING PADINGTON!

Uhh!

[edit] just read the post about it... I get it now... /[edit]

 

[Richdog]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
her having dreams about you cheating is more about her not trusting you more than it is about you actually cheating imo.

 

[ProUser]

Here's another thought you might want to consider, or maybe not. Sometimes when one person thinks the other is cheating, it's because they themselves are cheating. It kind of plays tricks in their mind.

I dated one girl who started having 'dreams', and questioning my committment. The phone would ring and suddenly she would be interested "Who was that?" and stuff like that which didn't happen in the past, etc. All sorts of things like this. Turns out she was cheating on me. When she finally came clean, she told me that as soon as she started cheating she became paranoid that I was doing the same to her.

 

[nick1985]

Originally posted by: ProUser
Here's another thought you might want to consider, or maybe not. Sometimes when one person thinks the other is cheating, it's because they themselves are cheating. It kind of plays tricks in their mind.

I dated one girl who started having 'dreams', and questioning my committment. The phone would ring and suddenly she would be interested "Who was that?" and stuff like that which didn't happen in the past, etc. All sorts of things like this. Turns out she was cheating on me. When she finally came clean, she told me that as soon as she started cheating she became paranoid that I was doing the same to her.

did you dump her ass?

 

[maziwanka]

hahahahhaa. have fun.

 

[Nitemare]

Tell her you dreamt that she was having a threesome with you and her bestfriend.


Welcome to the irrational thinking that is womankind

 

[deerslayer]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Tell her you dreamt that she was having a threesome with you and her bestfriend.


Welcome to the irrational thinking that is womankind

 

[sadb0i]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
her having dreams about you cheating is more about her not trusting you more than it is about you actually cheating imo.

to the other guy...she needs to trust me...hence the "trust" in subject

 

[ProUser]

Originally posted by: nick1985

Originally posted by: ProUser
Here's another thought you might want to consider, or maybe not. Sometimes when one person thinks the other is cheating, it's because they themselves are cheating. It kind of plays tricks in their mind.

I dated one girl who started having 'dreams', and questioning my committment. The phone would ring and suddenly she would be interested "Who was that?" and stuff like that which didn't happen in the past, etc. All sorts of things like this. Turns out she was cheating on me. When she finally came clean, she told me that as soon as she started cheating she became paranoid that I was doing the same to her.

did you dump her ass?

For sure. She actually ended up cheating on that guy too, and then the next, and the next. Once a cheater....

The best was one of my friends brought this girl out to dinner with all of us, and she spent the entire evening complaining how her boyfriend of 3 years just cheated on her, and how horrible of a person he was, there are 'no good guys left', yadda yadda yadda. I mean she literally went on for hours about how devestated and hurt she was, and how horrible of a human being you have to be cheat on someone. I truly felt sorry for her, and really sympathized with her.

THEN

I find out the very next day that yes the boyfriend cheated on her 1 week ago, but she had been cheating on him for months and was already dating someone new the day after the breakup with the guy of 3 years. She felt she did nothing wrong cheating on him for months, but when he did it to her - she was, per her own words, "scarred for life." The poster above said it best: Welcome to the irrational thinking that is womankind.

 

[Hammer]

giver her double laundry and ironing duty. that will straighten her out.

 

[AgentEL]

Originally posted by: deerslayer

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Welcome to the irrational thinking that is womankind

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: sadb0i
OK, the GF wakes up from a dream she had about me cheating on her. She has the crazy belief that her dreams are telling her something. Anyway, she asks me if I am seeing anyone else. I say NO. She doesn't believe me. UHHHHH OK

I try talking to her calmly about it all and she still doesn't believe me.

Now i have to do the whole trust speech over AGAIN.


*shakes head*

Geezus...sounds like she's got some serious trust issues if you haven't given her any real reason to not believe you.

My wife had a few bad dreams about me cheating on her when we first got together, but she realized it was just a dream and has never had any problems trusting me in that regard.

 

[sadb0i]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Welcome to the irrational thinking that is womankind

WORD!

 

[The Stigenator]

Originally posted by: sadb0i
OK, the GF wakes up from a dream she had about me cheating on her. She has the crazy belief that her dreams are telling her something. Anyway, she asks me if I am seeing anyone else. I say NO. She doesn't believe me. UHHHHH OK

I try talking to her calmly about it all and she still doesn't believe me.

Now i have to do the whole trust speech over AGAIN.


*shakes head*

Ask her if she is seeing someone / thinking someone is hot and wants to get with them..
chances are her dream is telling her to find out first so she can have fun.. just in case your cheating then its game for her.. women's minds is a mystery but workable if you know how to.

 

[Czesia]

It sounds like she is being a bit unreasonable, but it's probably safe to say that it was a bad dream and now that she consciously has the thought in her mind, it scares her. You shouldn't be expected to justify yourself in any way because you haven't done anything wrong. That being said, try to comfort her. She'll come around.

 

[sadb0i]

all is well now...she got put in her place.

me: "if this sh*t ever comes up again... im gone, its that easy for me. i cant handle people who dont trust me."
gf: "im sorry"
me: "k"

now we get to makeup.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: sadb0i
all is well now...she got put in her place.

me: "if this sh*t ever comes up again... im gone, its that easy for me. i cant handle people who dont trust me."
gf: "im sorry"
me: "k"

now we get to makeup.

Make-up sex = teh hotness

 

[BigToque]

Originally posted by: sadb0i
all is well now...she got put in her place.

me: "if this sh*t ever comes up again... im gone, its that easy for me. i cant handle people who dont trust me."
gf: "im sorry"
me: "k"

now we get to makeup.

wow... that's pretty harsh.