YAGT: What would you do if you found out that your significant other found your pr0n collection? Updated Resolution!

[RIGorous1]

Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

Edit update: So I put my foot down on the issue, but ofcourse with a few concessions. I can't watch it around her, talk about the girls, or come to her with a preheated oven ... she admits that she is insecure with her sexuality, and by me not doing the above things she can hopefully get over it. I admit that I'm addicted to sex, but that I don't consider women to be objects. To me its like art (some might say its not unlike collecting stamps ). Nevertheless, its something that I enjoy, and that enjoyment is a part of who I am. Therefore, she's decide to accept me for who and what I am and we'll work things out.

Thanks for all your help in this discussion, and all the funny/clever/personal posts that got us through this.

Rig

 

[Heisenberg]

Watch it with her. Duh.

 

[Feldenak]

I don't hide it from her.

 

[dquan97]

what pron collection?

 

[Wingznut]

If you are a mature person ready for a committed relationship, this is an EASY fix... Toss it.

It obviously bothers her and causes her angst. Is porn really that important to you???

 

[Maleficus]

C O M P U T E R

all the pr0n u need + she won't find it

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: Heisenberg
Watch it with her. Duh.

I second that Duh.

 

[thebestMAX]

Send it to me.

My ex guilt tripped me into tossing pictures of my ex girlfriends and letters and I still regret doing it.

OOPS, forgive me for posting anything of a mature nature here. Got mixed up with another forum

 

[MaxDepth]

I found her stash and it is bigger than mine!
:Q

 

[Amorphus]

porn, or your wife? it's an easy choice. grow a spine - you're cheapening your marriage's sexual aspect with the artificial sex supplied by the pornography.

 

[CPA]

My wife enjoys it, hell she even decides the new movies to buy. Granted they are mostly woman on woman action, but hey I can handle that

 

[thirtythree]

dunno.. I don't have a collection.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

No she isn't over-reacting, why wouldn't she have known that you have looked at porn at any point in your life? Yes I would toss it unless you think those pictures are more important than your wife. And then don't defend it, just tell her that was before she found the perfect person to marry and it no longer is important to you.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: CPA
My wife enjoys it, hell she even decides the new movies to buy. Granted they are mostly woman on woman action, but hey I can handle that

perhaps she is trying to tell you something :Q

 

[Spamela]

every guy does it

does what? look at pr0n?

not every guy does.

 

[vi edit]

My wife renewed the Playboy subscription for me.

 

[CPA]

Originally posted by: SagaLore

Originally posted by: CPA
My wife enjoys it, hell she even decides the new movies to buy. Granted they are mostly woman on woman action, but hey I can handle that

perhaps she is trying to tell you something :Q

She isn't telling me something I already don't know. And no, it isn't that she's gay. Well, at least not completely gay.

 

[Eli]

I don't have a pr0n collection, so .. lol

 

[bernse]

Originally posted by: Amorphus
porn, or your wife? it's an easy choice. grow a spine - you're cheapening your marriage's sexual aspect with the artificial sex supplied by the pornography.

Oh please. You're giving porno way more credit than its worth.

Sometimes a dude just wants to look at a nekkid hot chick. You're not cheapening anything by doing that unless you let it.

 

[K1052]

I would "Get rid of it".

By "Get rid of it" I mean move it to the super secret location where I would put everything else I owned before we got married.

Also encrypt the 40 gig drive that houses the computer collection.

 

[BigJ]

Keep it in your trunk, if need be where your spare tire should be.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

If it really bothers her that much and you love her enough to keep drama at a minimum, mail it all to me.

My s/o's knew about my pr0n collection... freaked some of them out, but most managed to get over it and watch too.

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

If it really bothers her that much and you love her enough to keep drama at a minimum, mail it all to me.

My s/o's knew about my pr0n collection... freaked some of them out, but most managed to get over it and watch too.

:Q

pics?

 

[RIGorous1]

Originally posted by: bernse

Originally posted by: Amorphus
porn, or your wife? it's an easy choice. grow a spine - you're cheapening your marriage's sexual aspect with the artificial sex supplied by the pornography.

Oh please. You're giving porno way more credit than its worth.

Sometimes a dude just wants to look at a nekkid hot chick. You're not cheapening anything by doing that unless you let it.

This is the opinion which I identify with most... I mean can't a man look at it like art and enjoy it... analyze it? I don't know... and why is it that some couples deal with it while others don't... I mean is that a sign of sexual insecurity?

Oh, and I can't hide it because she will probably find it. She knows how to search files and folders, check internet history, and lord knows what other tricks.

She threatened to smash my computer with a bat if she found more...

 

[CraigRT]

doesnt pertain to me since i don't and will never have a porn collection

what would i do? blame it on someone else