YAGT: What would you do if you found out that your significant other found your pr0n collection? Updated Resolution!

[flexy]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
The real problem, imho, is that he's got a wife who is jealous, closed-minded, controlling, and not sexually open.

I would ditch the wife. (Even if that answer is not politically correct with a lot of people here.)

i wouldn't go that far especially since i/you dont know anything about their relationship. The fact the she is controlling/insecure *could* also result from that he is doing something wrong...it's too easy to blame anything on the wife at the first glance without really knowing why she's acting like that....

 

[Hubris]

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
I'm thinking it comes down to this for me...

Fact: I think I'm addicted to porn and women (to a degree I think we all are for men/women)

Even If I do throw it, does that mean that I'm cured. No, I'll just be a porn addict with no porn. Can I be changed? cause part of me thinks that this desire is innate or born within as an instinct, if so, then I can't be changed. Or should I just repress those desires and become a robot of social conformity. Or should she just accept me for who I am whether my addiction is subjective or objective...

Whoa boy. Should have read this before replying. If you've got an addiction, then you might wanna toss the stuff. And this isn't something you should be asking anyone but a professional about.

 

[fredtam]

Go ahead and take a stand now. You might as well make this an issue if she is becoming a control freak. If it was there before she was tell her to get the fvck over it or at the very least make her get rid of something or change something you dislike. I suggest her attitude. Unless there is some profound religious reason behind her actions that you knew about before you married I would tell her to get over it. I have pictures of my old girlfriends and plenty of porn and my wife doesn't mind either of them. She actually likes the porn. If she is stuck on throwing it away find someone willing to accept it. You will probably live a longer happier life. On the other hand you did describe it as an addiction so maybe you could tone it down a little. At least have a couple glasses of wine and pop one in. See if the reaction is the same. She may just be a closet pervert herself.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

Tell her that thinking about all those hot women helps you close your eyes and make love to her.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

Tell her that thinking about all those hot women helps you close your eyes and make love to her.

Ouch!

- M4H

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: flexy

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
The real problem, imho, is that he's got a wife who is jealous, closed-minded, controlling, and not sexually open.

I would ditch the wife. (Even if that answer is not politically correct with a lot of people here.)

i wouldn't go that far especially since i/you dont know anything about their relationship. The fact the she is controlling/insecure *could* also result from that he is doing something wrong...it's too easy to blame anything on the wife at the first glance without really knowing why she's acting like that....

You have a point. But ditching the wife is always a valid solution in the worst-case scenario.

 

[Hubris]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

Tell her that thinking about all those hot women helps you close your eyes and make love to her.

Ouch!

- M4H

Seconded. Ouch.

 

[ultimatebob]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

Tell her that thinking about all those hot women helps you close your eyes and make love to her.

Ouch, yet another good zinger from GeekBabe! She's quickly becoming the queen of YAGT crapping

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: flexy

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
The real problem, imho, is that he's got a wife who is jealous, closed-minded, controlling, and not sexually open.

I would ditch the wife. (Even if that answer is not politically correct with a lot of people here.)

i wouldn't go that far especially since i/you dont know anything about their relationship. The fact the she is controlling/insecure *could* also result from that he is doing something wrong...it's too easy to blame anything on the wife at the first glance without really knowing why she's acting like that....

You have a point. But ditching the wife is always a valid solution in the worst-case scenario.

If he's an "addict" it's entirely possible that he's ignoring his wife's sexual needs in favor of porn,he might also be less than considerate on the streets,eyeing other women is fine,comparing your woman unfavorably to them or making audible crude comments in front of her is not.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: ultimatebob

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

Tell her that thinking about all those hot women helps you close your eyes and make love to her.

Ouch, yet another good zinger from GeekBabe! She's quickly becoming the queen of YAGT crapping

/again points to YAGT ...

- M4H

 

[upsciLLion]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Eli

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

If it really bothers her that much and you love her enough to keep drama at a minimum, mail it all to me.

My s/o's knew about my pr0n collection... freaked some of them out, but most managed to get over it and watch too.

:Q

pics?

Of the pr0n? Mostly Tia Bella, Tera Patrick, Vivid girls, etc.

I call bull$#!&.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: flexy

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
The real problem, imho, is that he's got a wife who is jealous, closed-minded, controlling, and not sexually open.

I would ditch the wife. (Even if that answer is not politically correct with a lot of people here.)

i wouldn't go that far especially since i/you dont know anything about their relationship. The fact the she is controlling/insecure *could* also result from that he is doing something wrong...it's too easy to blame anything on the wife at the first glance without really knowing why she's acting like that....

You have a point. But ditching the wife is always a valid solution in the worst-case scenario.

If he's an "addict" it's entirely possible that he's ignoring his wife's sexual needs in favor of porn,he might also be less than considerate on the streets,eyeing other women is fine,comparing your woman unfavorably to them or making audible crude comments in front of her is not.

Very true. But that would not be the "worst-case scenario" of which I speak. If he created his own problem, then he must solve it.

 

[Hubris]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: ultimatebob

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

Tell her that thinking about all those hot women helps you close your eyes and make love to her.

Ouch, yet another good zinger from GeekBabe! She's quickly becoming the queen of YAGT crapping

/again points to YAGT ...

- M4H

I don't want to have to go to a whole different site, I wanna see the whiners in here!

 

[Sid59]

too bad ..

my gf knows i have porn. my gf knows i watch porn. my gf watches porn with me.

you should be more open with your significant other. then .. you can make watch the porn you made together.

 

[Aharami]

my gf knows i have porn. but she chooses not to watch it with me. bummer

 

[caitlion]

Originally posted by: Maleficus
C O M P U T E R

all the pr0n u need + she won't find it

wrong. my bf tried to lie for months. it didnt help him very much.

i watched it with him until i found out he was fvcking lying.. i mean why would you lie to someone when theyre sitting there telling you its fine they just want you to be honest about it? whoooo there went our trust.

 

[Squisher]

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

If she objects to it, let her toss it.

Is it an over-reaction on her part? Probably.

You gotta pick your battles. Sounds like fighting for the possession of something that is replaceable and you haven't looked at since college doesn't sound like it's worth the effort.

BTW-what guy hasn't looked at porn?

 

[Koing]

So i got a call at work today...
my SO was in my computer and she asked, '..so like, what were you doing last night?'

me: erm...working on the computer..
her: really?...i was looking to look at pics and so i went through the Start>Documents...
me:...erm...i was working.
her: huh..ok, fine. I see u have a lot of movies...
me: er...but,i was working
her: i looked at that folder, 90+ GB?!
me:...erm..
her: fine, i hope u had a great time...*click*
me: ...damn u Microsoft!...

...*sigh...what to do?...i dun actually watch them...its just like a collection, not unlike stamps.

Had to post it again. SO funny

Do nothing.

So what are you going to do?

Koing

On a side note: Back up all your porna nd leave the HD around a TRUSTED mates house . Or leave it in the bank safe deposit

 

[manly]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

If it really bothers her that much and you love her enough to keep drama at a minimum, mail it all to me.

My s/o's knew about my pr0n collection... freaked some of them out, but most managed to get over it and watch too.

I'll bring over the microwave popcorn.

 

[Wingznut]

Originally posted by: pipster
I presume you are also in a committed relationship, but you are either a) a guy who doesn't "wear the pants" or b) a woman who believes they can change men and are in a "fixer-upper" relationship.

Touche!

But yes, I've been married for 11 years and have two boys. It's been a great ride, and I wouldn't change it for anything.

In every successful relationship, both parties make compromises. It's awful selfish to think that one doesn't need to make them. But then again, if you can't fathom why a hidden porn collection might make a girl feel not so special... Then selfish is probably not an unfair description.

Squisher is right... You need to pick your battles. And it is still of my very humble opinion that if porn is that important to you, then you need to rethink your priorities.

 

[vtqanh]

Originally posted by: Koing

So i got a call at work today...
my SO was in my computer and she asked, '..so like, what were you doing last night?'

me: erm...working on the computer..
her: really?...i was looking to look at pics and so i went through the Start>Documents...
me:...erm...i was working.
her: huh..ok, fine. I see u have a lot of movies...
me: er...but,i was working
her: i looked at that folder, 90+ GB?!
me:...erm..
her: fine, i hope u had a great time...*click*
me: ...damn u Microsoft!...

...*sigh...what to do?...i dun actually watch them...its just like a collection, not unlike stamps.

Had to post it again. SO funny

Do nothing.

So what are you going to do?

Koing

On a side note: Back up all your porna nd leave the HD around a TRUSTED mates house . Or leave it in the bank safe deposit

hehe, i'm still waiting for the update on that one

 

[prvteye2003]

why do/did you feel like you had to hide it from her?

 

[Wingznut]

Originally posted by: prvteye2003
why do/did you feel like you had to hide it from her?

Obviously because he knew she'd be upset.

 

[Krugger]

mine didn't believe me when i used to say i didn't have any/didn't watch it... (early on) then she told me she thought i was weird if i didn't. so i confessed obviously... who wants to lie and be thought of as weird b/c of it... she's totally cool with it of course. girls like porn with a plot though... i'll never understand that...

 

[Stratum9]

Originally posted by: Krugger
girls like porn with a plot though... i'll never understand that...

LOL, I've noticed that too! I try to get her to make out with me in between the action scenes; but she's too distracted to make out because she's trying to keep up with the plot!