YAGT: What would you do if you found out that your significant other found your pr0n collection? Updated Resolution!

[pipster]

Originally posted by: Wingznut
Touche!

But yes, I've been married for 11 years and have two boys. It's been a great ride, and I wouldn't change it for anything.

In every successful relationship, both parties make compromises. It's awful selfish to think that one doesn't need to make them. But then again, if you can't fathom why a hidden porn collection might make a girl feel not so special... Then selfish is probably not an unfair description.

Squisher is right... You need to pick your battles. And it is still of my very humble opinion that if porn is that important to you, then you need to rethink your priorities.

Agreed. Compromises are necessary in any lasting relationship. IMHO, as far as "hidden porn collection" is concerned, I wasn't making light of the fact that people have their own reservations about porn. I was merely stating that the issue of "hidden" is as big as the issue of "porn collection," if not moreso.

Being insecure about yourself, hiding things from your partner... is a basic case of "lack of intimacy."

BTW, I was in junior high when you got married! If what you have works for you, then here's to 11 more years! :beer:

 

[Wingznut]

Originally posted by: pipster
Agreed. Compromises are necessary in any lasting relationship. IMHO, as far as "hidden porn collection" is concerned, I wasn't making light of the fact that people have their own reservations about porn. I was merely stating that the issue of "hidden" is as big as the issue of "porn collection," if not moreso.

Being insecure about yourself, hiding things from your partner... is a basic case of "lack of intimacy."

BTW, I was in junior high when you got married! If what you have works for you, then here's to 11 more years! :beer:

Jr High? Ugh.... Way to make me feel old! :frown:

 

[illustri]

i seriously doubt op values his porn stash above his wife, but the fact that she calls him a pervert for having one blares the screaming red klaxon in my mind

they obviously have different outlooks and opinions which are incompatible - i'm surprised they went as far as marriage before this came out. like the beatles said "we can work it out" do your best on this small issue to come to a compromise (not meaning cave into her you pussy) but something meaningful for both of you so when a SERIOUS concern comes up later (this you can probably count on) you'll have this stepping stone leading to how you deal then.

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: EyeMWing
I love how all the ATOT women are porn freaks.

:beer:

Wait, no beer for you, young man.

:chocolatemilk;

 

[Wingznut]

Originally posted by: illustri
they obviously have different outlooks and opinions which are incompatible - i'm surprised they went as far as marriage before this came out.

I have little doubt that he knew exactly how she felt about porn... Which explains why he hid it from her.

 

I have porn, my SO knows about it and has no problem. Hell, she watches some of it as well. But if she asked me to get rid of it, I probably would...or at least make a backup, delete it from the computer, and give the backup to a friend so he could at least enjoy it.

 

[eigen]

My wife enjoys porn about as much as I do.She likes the fetish and /rough sex stuff.

 

[illustri]

Originally posted by: Wingznut

Originally posted by: illustri
they obviously have different outlooks and opinions which are incompatible - i'm surprised they went as far as marriage before this came out.

I have little doubt that he knew exactly how she felt about porn... Which explains why he hid it from her.

yes but thats my point, how can he knowing so still not work it out before the vows and i do's, it would be like me not telling my gf I was into extreme bestiality before we wed and before we move out to the farm

 

[Fireball77]

You're right, but the core of the issue goes further... I mean she's become so possessive over me lately that she gets mad when I talk to female co-workers, even talk chicks off of the street. I'm affraid that a salient jelousy is developing and I don't like it. I've always have been fascinated with sex and am not immoral about it, so why should I budge. I think she is the one with the insecurities...

My wife did that to me also.....I once held a door open for a lady at the mall and I got hell for it. I am in general a very polite gentleman.....I hold doors open for eveyone....but because it was a decent looking woman, I got hell. Samething with the porn...I got rid of it....she would look through the interent history and everything...if a picture even had a girl in a swim suit...I am accused of looking at porn again. Maxim, Stuff Magaine, she considers porn.....I had old pictures of my ex-girlfriend at Prom....she went Psycho over that. It is all a control thing with them....plus the fact that they are so damn immature and do not know how to handle situations like that that they regress to hostile w(b)itches.

 

[Geekbabe]

I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

 

[Wingznut]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

So, let me get this straight... You are asking the ATOT guys to somehow manage to put themselves into the other person's "shoes" and try to understand why they feel the way they do?

Ummm... Yeah, right... Like that's really gonna happen!

 

[arcenite]

Originally posted by: Deslocke
dunno.. I don't have a collection.

 

[Narse]

Never had a problem with that myself, as a matter of fact what little we do have belongs to my wife.

 

[illustri]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

you know what that will never happen
women complain about the male refractory period but I can safely claim that most guys who have masturbated can still have sex with their partners OMG in the same DAY
furthermore masturbation is a sexual act but I'm sure you'll agree is in no way the same as sex with a partner
a woman who would say that is just saying no to sex with her partner, not because she's already had sex

 

[Ryan]

I don't have one so it doens't matter.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

is that what you call it? :Q

 

[BladeWalker]

RIG, don't you have any single male friends who can take your porn off your hand? That way if your marriage doesn't work out you can always come back to your porn collection.

 

[PunDogg]

Originally posted by: Maleficus
C O M P U T E R

all the pr0n u need + she won't find it

true dat

i tons of computer on my pr0n machine

Dogg

 

[emb09]

Originally posted by: RIGorous1
Just wondering because my wife just found my stash from college days and she blew up saying she didn't know I was such a pervert and all. It was nothing weird like beastiality or anything, just stuff from jenna, lexus, etc. Anyways I retorted that every guy does it, and that at least it was controlled and not real like with a prostitute or anything. Am I right?

Nevertheless she is pissed and wants me to throw it all away... everything, and anything with a girl on it. Is she over-reacting? Should I toss it?

Thanks for your serious comments

i think it is obvious that tossing it and porn go hand in hand. NPI

 

[Nohr]

My wife would probably want to watch it.

 

[yukichigai]

Not to make you guys jealous, but my current ladyfriend specifically requests that I send her whatever good porn I find. Her tastes are almost exactly what mine are. 'cept she likes guys.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

I would wonder who planted it.

 

[Banana]

Originally posted by: BigJ
Keep it in your trunk, if need be where your spare tire should be.

Good hidey hole, until she decides on a whim to clean up the car for you. Yes--Please ask me how I know

 

[Abhi]

I dont hide it ...

 

[flxnimprtmscl]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

While men are not multi-orgasmic by nature I've yet to hear of someone who couldn't get it up more than once a day Hell, the average ATer probably beats off three or four times a day easily. Pretty horrible analogy.