YAGT: What would you do if you found out that your significant other found your pr0n collection? Updated Resolution!

[WayneTeK]

be hella embarassed... i'd shoot my d1ck off

 

[Nitemare]

She sounds like a jeolous control freak. Kick her to the curb before she pulls a Fatal Attraction on yo @$$

 

[NickelTitanium]

Ask her if you she wants to try that sh!t out on Jenna vol. III

 

[Wolfsraider]

mine joined in...get the letters and leave one "laying around" works better than the pics

 

[Wolfsraider]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

no "offense" but there are times when ya need relief...if the relationship is so immature that you "get mad" because the other person relieved/enjoyed themselves....what is the point of starting a rlationship that skewed?

male or female that way of thinking is wrong imho

 

[ultimatebob]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

Wow, 40 Gigs? Damn! All of a sudden, my porn collection is looking pretty puny in comparison

 

[MAME]

she shouldn't get mad. Seriously a large percentage of men have looked at or still look at porn. It's just a way of feeling good and letting nature do it's thing (well, a simulation of it I suppose).

She should understand but you shouldn't need to look at it now anyway.

I would tell my gf/wife to grow up and not freak out. Then I would hit her...but that's just me

 

[thetruth21]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

as has been previously stated RIDICULOUSLY HORRIBLE ANALOGY. guys don't do that. WOMEN DO THOUGH, SO AT LEAST YOU WERE ON THE RIGHT TRACK WHEN YOU HAD THEM MAKING EXCUSES. But instead of 40+ gig collection it is "headache" "bad day at work" "too tired" etc.

to the thread poster sounds like your wife could use to loosen up a lot according to your description. i wouldnt throw it away. seems like she is the pshyco controlling bitch. she should start to deal with her problem.

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves.


As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie).

As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

 

[randomlinh]

wow, there are some guys who freaked out when the girls revealed their porn collection?!? heh.

as for the original poster... toss it. just somethin your wife no like. as for me, it seems that when I have a gf, the porn collection collects dust anyway

 

[caitlion]

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves.


As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie).

As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

or maybe he should try being honest. i know i would be fvcking pissed if i found out my boyfriend was going through all that trouble just to hide porn from me.. is the porn really that important to you? more important than your girlfriend/wife's feelings? i cant even imagine if it was my husband and he was still lying.

is honesty in a relationship even important to guys?

 

[spidey07]

is honesty in a relationship even important to guys?

Sure it is. And we honestly need porn.

What woman don't seem to understand is that we need to clean the pipes so to speak.

 

[ohtwell]

My hubby doesn't have to hide his stash, because I don't care about him looking at pr0n.

Oh, and your wife is def. overreacting!


: ) Amanda

 

[CountZero]

Saying she's overreacting isn't fair really. Some women do not accept the idea of their man looking at other women period.

My GF has no issue with my porn or my self indulgences as long as it doesn't affect us. As in I don't say no, I'd rather look at porn then sleep with you. So make sure you are attending to her needs in that department.

Ask if she has an issue with you beating off, sounds dumb but maybe she thinks she should be all you need. Make sure she knows it isn't to replace her.

Just because he was hiding it doesn't mean he thought she'd be mad. Maybe he's embarassed about it, there is still a pretty large stigma attached to porn.

At the end of the day though she may never accept the idea of her man looking at porn, you'll have to decide if its a battle worth fighting.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves.


As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie).

As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

Judging from convo's I've had with women who are divorcing in part because they have almost zero sex lives, I'd say lots of guys say "no" to sex with wives and g/friends on a fairly regular basis.

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: caitlion

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves. As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie). As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

or maybe he should try being honest. i know i would be fvcking pissed if i found out my boyfriend was going through all that trouble just to hide porn from me.. is the porn really that important to you? more important than your girlfriend/wife's feelings? i cant even imagine if it was my husband and he was still lying. is honesty in a relationship even important to guys?

I always have told my girlfriends about the stash, but this guy needs his porn and his GF is too psycho to reason with.

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves. As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie). As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

Judging from convo's I've had with women who are divorcing in part because they have almost zero sex lives, I'd say lots of guys say "no" to sex with wives and g/friends on a fairly regular basis.

You say "in part because they have amost zero sex lives." There are so many reasons that go way beyond sex itself that cause these divorces. Since you're talking about sex lives as a cause, I have to say that even you must surely understand that the cause of a poor sex life in a relationship is not due to sexual factors but due primarily to emotional factors. When the chemistry isn't there any more it's both partners' fault, and sometimes it takes work to get back into the swing of things. If you think about cause and effect in this situation; the cause is a poor sex life, and the effect is a guy rubbing himself out - it is not that a guy rubbing himself out leads to a poor sex life. There isn't a guy out there who would rather rub himself out instead and making love to a loving GF/Wife.

 

[geckojohn]

My g/f knows about my porn collection and doesn't mind. We actually watch it together sometimes.

 

[nativesunshine]

Originally posted by: pipster
I told my gf about my pr0n collection and told her I have absolutely NO problems if she feels uncomfortable with it and wanted me to toss it. I think since I played so cool and no-big-deal-ish, she figured that she shouldn't have a problem with it either.

I think hiding it is a bad idea... the frame of mind to hide anything from someone means that you may have more serious issues than originally stated (ie: what ELSE are you considering hiding, you know?) If she wants you to toss it, and you REALLY can't part with your pr0n... time to move on and find a girl that can live with it.

If you really care about her (which I figure you do because it's your wife, not just a gf): honesty's not the best policy. It's the only policy.

that would've been the same for me..if he had been cool with me being uncomfortable about it. But no...when i found his stash...and asked him why he needed porn if he had me..he got all defensive and started making up tons of excuses. It was pretty unsettling that he'd have to DEFEND his pervertedness... I would've been cool about it all..i even suggested that maybe one day we watch some together..but he said that he'd feel weird about sharing that with me. I dunno...maybe he's the one with issues and insecurities.

and i also agree with the honesty thing....but it doesn't only apply to married couples. Honesty is key when you're involved in any kind of relationship with someone..serious or not.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves. As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie). As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

Judging from convo's I've had with women who are divorcing in part because they have almost zero sex lives, I'd say lots of guys say "no" to sex with wives and g/friends on a fairly regular basis.

You say "<EM>in part</EM> because they have amost zero sex lives." There are so many reasons that go way beyond sex itself that cause these divorces. Since you're talking about sex lives as a cause, I have to say that even you must surely understand that the cause of a poor sex life in a relationship is not due to sexual factors but due primarily to emotional factors. When the chemistry isn't there any more it's both partners' fault, and sometimes it takes work to get back into the swing of things. If you think about cause and effect in this situation; the cause is a poor sex life, and the effect is a guy rubbing himself out - it is not that a guy rubbing himself out leads to a poor sex life. There isn't a guy out there who would rather rub himself out instead and making love to a loving GF/Wife.

Let's put it to you this way,not every guy is 16 yrs old and when you get older once or twice a day might be all the going a guy can manage,if an image on a 2D screen gets the action what do you think the wife gets at day's end? exactly nothing.The stories of guys awake at 2am pleasuring themselves in the computer room night after night aren't exactly rare.There are a lot of guys out there who are so pulled into 2D images that their real time relationships suffer and crumble.

 

[Dulanic]

I wouldn't do anything, she has seen it and enjoys it

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves. As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie). As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

Judging from convo's I've had with women who are divorcing in part because they have almost zero sex lives, I'd say lots of guys say "no" to sex with wives and g/friends on a fairly regular basis.

You say "in part because they have amost zero sex lives." There are so many reasons that go way beyond sex itself that cause these divorces. Since you're talking about sex lives as a cause, I have to say that even you must surely understand that the cause of a poor sex life in a relationship is not due to sexual factors but due primarily to emotional factors. When the chemistry isn't there any more it's both partners' fault, and sometimes it takes work to get back into the swing of things. If you think about cause and effect in this situation; the cause is a poor sex life, and the effect is a guy rubbing himself out - it is not that a guy rubbing himself out leads to a poor sex life. There isn't a guy out there who would rather rub himself out instead and making love to a loving GF/Wife.

Let's put it to you this way,not every guy is 16 yrs old and when you get older once or twice a day might be all the going a guy can manage,if an image on a 2D screen gets the action what do you think the wife gets at day's end? exactly nothing.The stories of guys awake at 2am pleasuring themselves in the computer room night after night aren't exactly rare.There are a lot of guys out there who are so pulled into 2D images that their real time relationships suffer and crumble.

Let's take the example of the guy who can manage it only once a day. In the morning he doesn't have time to pull it off before work so he goes to work unspent. Hopefully he doesn't pull out a little mini collection on his PDA to use in the executive men's room during the work day. If he came home to a good, loving relationship, I assure you he would greatly prefer to use his one daily shot in an event of passionate lovemaking instead on his 5 little friends.

When you mention "The stories of guys awake at 2am pleasuring themselves in the computer room" the first thing I thought was that he wouldn't need to be doing that if everything was right with the relationship so that he and his wife could have shared in the pleasure. So you see, even if a guy has only one shot everyday the use of pornography to release that shot is a result of a poor relationship and not a cause of.

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: Dulanic
I wouldn't do anything, she has seen it and enjoys it

This is why you tell 'em before you marry 'em. Good job.

 

[flexy]

ok, if some guy would prefer to 'rub it out' a few tiems a day while saing "NO" to real sex with his gf then i would say there IS a problem , there is a HUGE problem in that relationship

Let's put it to you this way,not every guy is 16 yrs old and when you get older once or twice a day might be all the going a guy can manage,if an image on a 2D screen gets the action what do you think the wife gets at day's end? exactly nothing.The stories of guys awake at 2am pleasuring themselves in the computer room night after night aren't exactly rare.There are a lot of guys out there who are so pulled into 2D images that their real time relationships suffer and crumble.

OMG there are girls out there BEGGING every night to 'get it' ?????? (Even worse: Guys saying "NO" then!)

/me shakes head in total disbelief.....

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: sxr7171

Originally posted by: Geekbabe I do wonder how guys would feel if they approached their g/friends/wives for sex and they said"thanks but no thanks, I'm good,I rubbed one out this morning to my 40 gig collection of naked guys.

But honestly how many times does a guy say no to sex? One of the reasons guys need porn for a backup is because women can be quite moody when it comes to sex. Whether or not a guy just rubbed one out there's still a 98% chance he'll say yes to sex. So porn doesn't prevent women from getting satisfaction so much as it keeps guys satisfied when women don't want to do it themselves. As for the OP's situation. Move your physical stash to storage (I have a big physical stash that I haven't touched in years - it just serves as my collection). This serves two purposes, one it keeps it away from your wife and two it won't be found in case you die in a car accident etc. If I remember correctly it was the movie Trainspotting where a couple of guys have pact where if one of them died the other would go quickly and remove the porn collection before anybody finds it (please correct me if I have the wrong movie). As for your computer collection, there are so many ways to protect it from prying eyes. First get tweakui and get rid of document history and stupid crap like that. Put all your stuff in a single hidden folder and name the folder "system." Next find some sort of encryption password protection software and just apply it on that one folder. Some programs won't allow the contents to show up in searches either. If you do it right she'll never find it, and you can have access to it whenever she leaves you alone with the computer. Otherwise get a small laptop and make it your personal machine with password protection etc. Say you it got from work or something, and happily view in the bathroom or wherever. Turn on the shower to confuse her more.

Judging from convo's I've had with women who are divorcing in part because they have almost zero sex lives, I'd say lots of guys say "no" to sex with wives and g/friends on a fairly regular basis.

You say "<EM>in part</EM> because they have amost zero sex lives." There are so many reasons that go way beyond sex itself that cause these divorces. Since you're talking about sex lives as a cause, I have to say that even you must surely understand that the cause of a poor sex life in a relationship is not due to sexual factors but due primarily to emotional factors. When the chemistry isn't there any more it's both partners' fault, and sometimes it takes work to get back into the swing of things. If you think about cause and effect in this situation; the cause is a poor sex life, and the effect is a guy rubbing himself out - it is not that a guy rubbing himself out leads to a poor sex life. There isn't a guy out there who would rather rub himself out instead and making love to a loving GF/Wife.

Let's put it to you this way,not every guy is 16 yrs old and when you get older once or twice a day might be all the going a guy can manage,if an image on a 2D screen gets the action what do you think the wife gets at day's end? exactly nothing.The stories of guys awake at 2am pleasuring themselves in the computer room night after night aren't exactly rare.There are a lot of guys out there who are so pulled into 2D images that their real time relationships suffer and crumble.

Let's take the example of the guy who can manage it only once a day. In the morning he doesn't have time to pull it off before work so he goes to work unspent. Hopefully he doesn't pull out a little mini collection on his PDA to use in the executive men's room during the work day. If he came home to a good, loving relationship, I assure you he would greatly prefer to use his one daily shot in an event of passionate lovemaking instead on his 5 little friends.

When you mention "The stories of guys awake at 2am pleasuring themselves in the computer room" the first thing I thought was that he wouldn't need to be doing that if everything was right with the relationship so that he and his wife could have shared in the pleasure. So you see, even if a guy has only one shot everyday the use of pornography to release that shot is a<EM> result</EM> of a poor relationship and not a <EM>cause</EM> of.

Back in the good old day if you wanted porn you had to make a trip to a store for it,now all you've got to do is log onto your computer or turn on the tv to view an ever changing array of every sort of sexual imaging in the world .This stuff is like eating candy a little is great and satisfies the appetite but like sweets,you eat too many everyday and it spoils your appetite for plain old meat and potato's. Good relationship or not for some people the stuff is addictive and does cause problems for them in their relationships.