YAGT: Why EX's don't make good friend

[Xstatic1]

Originally posted by: S Freud

Originally posted by: Xstatic1
wow, it's kinda cool to read/hear a male's perspective in how you guys can still carry a torch for your exes. kinda going thru something right now with my ex-BF who i hadn't spoken with in like 4 months until recently. just reading these posts (most of 'em anyway) have made my day.

just out of curosity, why did it make your day?

hmmm. it made my day 'cause i think stereotypically it's women (at least with my circle of women friends) who are more distraught/heartbroken after a break-up...and even years later, they'll still speak somewhat highly of their ex. my guy friends are another story...there's only 1 person who's admitted (like the posters here on the thread) that they still cared deeply for one of their exes; the rest just kinda shrugged off their breakups like it was no big deal (a few were even married!). maybe they were just being *typical guys*??? so overall, i was pleasantly surprised to be reading you guys' thoughts about this. props to those of you who opened up about how you felt.

 

[KoolDrew]

Originally posted by: hellokeith
clean break is the hardest but the best way

 

[S Freud]

Xstatic1, yeah I think thats guys acting like they don't care, as for most women speaking highly of their ex's I don't know if I can agree there. I know plenty who badmouth at any given oppourtunity, mine being one of them.

 

[Xstatic1]

Originally posted by: S Freud
Xstatic1, yeah I think thats guys acting like they don't care, as for most women speaking highly of their ex's I don't know if I can agree there. I know plenty who badmouth at any given oppourtunity, mine being one of them.

oh believe me, i know quite a few too who man-bash, but they're not in my circle of friends. those women give the rest of us a bad name because: 1) they had nothing else going for them except maybe their looks and the guy wised up to it, 2) got dumped first when all along they had planned on doing so and was merely keeping the guy on a leash, 3) the guy broke up with them so he can start dating other girls, etc., etc.

since i never really did comment on YOUR post--here goes: it's tough for you because your ex as your *first everything* and the fact that you guys were together for 3 years. the lesson you should learn from this now is to stay clear away from the insecure chicks because they're not really happy with themselves or still trying to figure who they are.

sounds like you're super busy with work and school...but if you can somehow start meeting girls for coffee or have lunch dates or maybe movie dates, you 'll soon wonder why you stayed with your ex for that long or what you even saw in your ex. hang in there.

 

[slackerinabox]

meh.. i'm still good friends with 2 of my ex's.. when you get older you never know who those ex's will introduce you to.. you don't have to be best of friends, just be civil and don't let her take advantage of you.

 

[AccruedExpenditure]

Originally posted by: Horus
I -LIVE- with my ex. I hear her and her boyfriend sometimes. It sucks MASSIVELY.


Especially since her boyfriend looks like McDreamy from Grey's Anatomy

wow.

 

[AccruedExpenditure]

Yeaup

 

[Heifetz]

Originally posted by: Horus
I -LIVE- with my ex. I hear her and her boyfriend sometimes. It sucks MASSIVELY.


Especially since her boyfriend looks like McDreamy from Grey's Anatomy

How can you stand that? Why don't you just move out?

 

[ScottFern]

Originally posted by: TheoPetro
you want to be back with the "old" her. The one you fell inlove with 3 years ago. She isnt that person anymore. My advice is to just make a clean break. Nothing will help like that will.

QFT

 

[IceBergSLiM]

your still in love with the "ideal" of being in a relationship with her. Get over it. you dont meet anyone quality because your still coming from a desperate place.

 

[Estrella]

Originally posted by: TheoPetro
you want to be back with the "old" her. The one you fell inlove with 3 years ago. She isnt that person anymore. My advice is to just make a clean break. Nothing will help like that will.

QFT

I went through a very similar thing while in highschool. Just focus on who you are and school and the behtches will come.

sorry:<