YAGT

[Zysoclaplem]

Well first off, I am an idiot.

I had been seeing someone (#1) for about 2 weeks, maybe. 18, Very very attractive, sweet and funny.
But, no car, no job, and mama still controls their life.
I.E. Sunday I invited this person over to hang out, or go have dinner.
Well they told me they couldn't because Sunday is the Sabbath and you are not supposed to entertain yourself or others on the Sabbath, or something. Mama would not let them leave the house except for church on that day. They are Mormons. That upset me, because I had not been able to see the person for days. Not only that, they went over on their cellphone minutes, so mama took the phone away. No way to contact them what so ever. I finally heard from this person again today. I figured they just decided not to talk to me anymore.

The second person (#2) I met last night. Also 18. Has a job and a phone. Goes to college.
Sweet, Cute, Fun. We saw a movie. It was great. Seems interested in me, and wants to go out again Friday.

The problem is, I already had sex with #1 after about a week. It complicates things.
I intended to exclusively date #1, or try to, but I don't think I can deal with mama and other factors. But this person wants to continue dating.

I want to try to date #2 now (seems more stable and inline with what I want), and still be friends with #1 because I know it won't work out with #1.

Does that make me an asshole?

If you were #1, would you feel used?

I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. But if I continue dating #1 I know how it will end. Badly.

 

[amish]

wait, you are kinda dating a gay mormon???
*head asplodes*

 

[giantpinkbunnyhead]

Dude, you're not the a-hole. #1's family is. Sadly that is a negative factor that #1 has to deal with. Not you. #2 for the win.

 

[imported_Ned Flanders]

Who cares?

What kind of mother in law are you after?

 

[RbSX]

I thought zysoclapem was gay? ... or who else was it?

Anyways, never think about going out with a girl with a nutcase family.

My mom married my dad and regrets it because of my grandma.

 

[slsmnaz]

I firmly believe in doing what makes yourself happy first. You can be concerned about the other person's feelings but not to the point where it controls your thinking. At 18 you should be having fun with it. Go for #2 and hope that #1 is mature enough to understand.

 

[jlbenedict]

ouch... I usually do not give honest input on these YAGT's but I'll go out of my way this time..

It appears #1 may become emotionally attached to you. You claim you've had sex with #1 already. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that #1 experienced sex for her first time. Plus, if she is that religious as you say, she is eventually going to want to take the relationship up to another level (ie. serious, engaged, marriage, etc...) You gotta watch those first timers.. their minds become clouded, easily..

You need to distance yourself from #1, but not in an "assholish" way.. make her want to break it off with you..

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: jlbenedict
ouch... I usually do not give honest input on these YAGT's but I'll go out of my way this time..

It appears #1 may become emotionally attached to you. You claim you've had sex with #1 already. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that #1 experienced sex for her first time. Plus, if she is that religious as you say, she is eventually going to want to take the relationship up to another level (ie. serious, engaged, marriage, etc...) You gotta watch those first timers.. their minds become clouded, easily..

You need to distance yourself from #1, but not in an "assholish" way.. make her want to break it off with you..

she = he. Zysoclaplem is homosexual.

 

[UncleWai]

Being an A-hole in your situation hurts.

 

[Alex]

tough choice dude.... i dunno what's the prospect on #1's future? any chance she will gain ANY independence soon?
i hate to say this but really #1's present situation makes it ideal for you to see #2 at the same time for a while longer and see how it pans out...

i just got out of a relationship where i was an asshole and cheated on a girl i love so much and she will never forgive me and i deserve it so i feel like i should say don't cheat etc etc but i dunno man just do what feels right and realize that your choices will affect ppl around you! gl! :beer:

 

[jlbenedict]

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: jlbenedict
ouch... I usually do not give honest input on these YAGT's but I'll go out of my way this time..

It appears #1 may become emotionally attached to you. You claim you've had sex with #1 already. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that #1 experienced sex for her first time. Plus, if she is that religious as you say, she is eventually going to want to take the relationship up to another level (ie. serious, engaged, marriage, etc...) You gotta watch those first timers.. their minds become clouded, easily..

You need to distance yourself from #1, but not in an "assholish" way.. make her want to break it off with you..

she = he. Zysoclaplem is homosexual.

:Q
Oh.. well, in that case.. this YAGT sucks!

I'll have to do a search on this Zysoclaplem character

 

[GuitarDaddy]

What does the "G" in YAGT stand for in this case? I'm confused. We need better definition so that we can answer properly. Maybe YAgT or YAGGT

 

[jdini76]

Apparently #1 doesn't truly believe in her morman ways if she slept with you after 1 week. Sleeping with you before wedlock alone is a big no-no for her religion isn't it? It's a tough decison, but you have to look out for #1 (meaning you). There is nothing wrong with dating two or more people at the same time. Allow some time to figure out which girl you realy want.

Edit: Just re-read OP. there was no gender specification. So I don't know if you are trying to make it as neutral as possible for general reason or specific reason, but dating guys are differnet than dating girls. So unles syou specify I cannot comment. IMO

 

[BrianH1]

Thats funny...the true SABBATH is on saturday... ::runs to temple:::

 

[Zysoclaplem]

I hate hurting people. But I know prolonging that will hurt even more in the end.
I really like #1. Very hot, sweet and funny and dorky. But they are too young and not ready for what I need right now.
#1 can't go places with me, or stay over, or randomly hang out. I take that back, #1 did stay over once. #1 had to lie to mama and tell her that they were spending the night at a friends from school.
I cannot deal with that.
But I wanted it to work. So i tried to ignore it.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: jlbenedict

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: jlbenedict
ouch... I usually do not give honest input on these YAGT's but I'll go out of my way this time..

It appears #1 may become emotionally attached to you. You claim you've had sex with #1 already. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that #1 experienced sex for her first time. Plus, if she is that religious as you say, she is eventually going to want to take the relationship up to another level (ie. serious, engaged, marriage, etc...) You gotta watch those first timers.. their minds become clouded, easily..

You need to distance yourself from #1, but not in an "assholish" way.. make her want to break it off with you..

she = he. Zysoclaplem is homosexual.

:Q
Oh.. well, in that case.. this YAGT sucks!

I'll have to do a search on this Zysoclaplem character

I don't mention homosexuality because people get pissy and claim that I am only out for attention and to gay as I can be on this forum.
I made everything I have typed completely neutral, not gay, nor straight. Just a predicament about two people.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: jdini76
Apparently #1 doesn't truly believe in her morman ways if she slept with you after 1 week. Sleeping with you before wedlock alone is a big no-no for her religion isn't it? It's a tough decison, but you have to look out for #1 (meaning you). There is nothing wrong with dating two or more people at the same time. Allow some time to figure out which girl you realy want.

There is something wrong with dating two people in my mind.
Especially when I have had sex with one of them.
I feel obligated to that person. Sex is a very important thing to me. It signifies something very deep.

 

[SoftwareEng]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: jdini76
Apparently #1 doesn't truly believe in her morman ways if she slept with you after 1 week. Sleeping with you before wedlock alone is a big no-no for her religion isn't it? It's a tough decison, but you have to look out for #1 (meaning you). There is nothing wrong with dating two or more people at the same time. Allow some time to figure out which girl you realy want.

There is something wrong with dating two people in my mind.
Especially when I have had sex with one of them.
I feel obligated to that person. Sex is a very important thing to me. It signifies something very deep.

no pun intended?
no, saying I love you signifies something deep!

 

[jman19]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
I thought zysoclapem was gay? ... or who else was it?

Anyways, never think about going out with a girl with a nutcase family.

My mom married my dad and regrets it because of my grandma.

Where does he mention that any of the people in question are female?

 

[jlbenedict]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I feel obligated to that person. Sex is a very important thing to me. It signifies something very deep.

Then why are you dating/messing around with two girls at the same time?
Are your goals of sex the same with girl #2?

Seems pretty hypocritical to me

 

[postmortemIA]

So YAGT title still applies, but it means Justs Another Gay Thread

 

[robothouse77]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: jdini76
Apparently #1 doesn't truly believe in her morman ways if she slept with you after 1 week. Sleeping with you before wedlock alone is a big no-no for her religion isn't it? It's a tough decison, but you have to look out for #1 (meaning you). There is nothing wrong with dating two or more people at the same time. Allow some time to figure out which girl you realy want.

There is something wrong with dating two people in my mind.
Especially when I have had sex with one of them.
I feel obligated to that person. Sex is a very important thing to me. It signifies something very deep.

at some point you'll have to just accept that a one night stand is what it is -- a ONE night stand. drop #1, get over it.

 

[SoftwareEng]

Originally posted by: jman19

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
I thought zysoclapem was gay? ... or who else was it?

Anyways, never think about going out with a girl with a nutcase family.

My mom married my dad and regrets it because of my grandma.

Where does he mention that any of the people in question are female?

OMG dude I didn't even pick up on that. The OP says "their", etc. Very suspicious. I think he's banging a chicken!!!

 

[postmortemIA]

Originally posted by: SoftwareEng

Originally posted by: jman19

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
I thought zysoclapem was gay? ... or who else was it?

Anyways, never think about going out with a girl with a nutcase family.

My mom married my dad and regrets it because of my grandma.

Where does he mention that any of the people in question are female?

OMG dude I didn't even pick up on that. The OP says "their", etc. Very suspicious. I think he's banging a chicken!!!

OMFG you fail at reading comprehension! Read the whole thread.

 

[pontifex]

i'm confused. you say that sex is very important to you. does that mean its like something sacred or just that you like it and have to have it?

if its the sacred, then you had sex with the guy after only 2 weeks or maybe even less than 2 weeks?


i'm not up on what the Mormons think of homosexuals, but based on other religions, its not a good thing, but yet he has to follow strict religious codes? or maybe his mom doesn't know?

i'd say lose #1 and go with #2.