YAHGT: What would you do?

[Citation]

Here is a hypothetical connundrum I was blessed with having to deal with whilst I was dreaming last night.

What would you do:

Lets say that you have been together with a girlfriend for several years now. You two have worked through many though things and you are pretty confident that this is the person that you are going spend the rest of your life with. You get along very well, and when you can, spend every day together. Typical couple in love.

Now your dream girl walks into your life. Not only is she perfect for your taste astetically, but personality wise aswell. She is everything that you have ever wanted in a girl. You know that if you choose to be with her that you will spend the rest of your life in pure bliss.

So who do you pick? Granted if you choose to be with your dream girl, you have to break up and explain your such actions to your current girlfriend as well as suffer through the process of uber breaking her heart. Remember this isn't just some girl you have been popping on your time off. This is someone who you love deeply, only want the best for, and cringe when the slightest thought of anything hurting her comes across your mind.

-Cit

please excuse the spelling and misuse of words through out the post. My head is still spinning from last night.

 

[SaltBoy]

What would you do? Post pics!

 

[Richdog]

ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ..............................................

 

[MazerRackham]

I say is you really loved your current gf, you wouldn't be so hot after this new girl. Are you sure the new girl wants to go out with you anyways? You better make sure somehow, LOL

 

[Rkonster]

Originally posted by: MazerRackham
I say is you really loved your current gf, you wouldn't be so hot after this new girl. Are you sure the new girl wants to go out with you anyways? You better make sure somehow, LOL

 

[Citation]

ok, let me explain more. First off pics don't count because it isn't what i should do. It is what would you do. Second if you missed my explination, this was in a dream. I love my current girlfriend dearly, and no dream girl has recently come into my life. However i was faced with this situation i posted above in my dreams and it really sucked.


-Cit

But man was she great........mmmmmm.......arhgharhgahrhgharhhgahrhgharhhgahr

 

[AreaCode707]

I was faced with this situation with reverse genders. Here's what I did. I stayed with my prior commitment - if someone is in a relationship, be in a relationship wholly, love everything about that person that you've always loved. Here's what happened. He, very gently and without malice, broke up with me for some good reasons. I, having been friends with the perfect guy since I met him, went through a period of singleness to recoup from my relationship, and then entered into a new relationship with him. The largest advantage to this? Guy 2 knows that when I give my word that I'm his and I will stay with him no matter what, my word really means something because he's seen me stick with it in other circumstances.

 

[toant103]

Originally posted by: Citation
Here is a hypothetical connundrum I was blessed with having to deal with whilst I was dreaming last night.

What would you do:

Lets say that you have been together with a girlfriend for several years now. You two have worked through many though things and you are pretty confident that this is the person that you are going spend the rest of your life with. You get along very well, and when you can, spend every day together. Typical couple in love.

Now your dream girl walks into your life. Not only is she perfect for your taste astetically, but personality wise aswell. She is everything that you have ever wanted in a girl. You know that if you choose to be with her that you will spend the rest of your life in pure bliss.

So who do you pick? Granted if you choose to be with your dream girl, you have to break up and explain your such actions to your current girlfriend as well as suffer through the process of uber breaking her heart. Remember this isn't just some girl you have been popping on your time off. This is someone who you love deeply, only want the best for, and cringe when the slightest thought of anything hurting her comes across your mind.

-Cit

please excuse the spelling and misuse of words through out the post. My head is still spinning from last night.

3rd option.

Lost both.

 

[eakers]

"yet another home garden thread"
wtf?
haha

i dunno what i would do. usually when in a relationship i don't notice other guys and when i start to its a signal that maybe i am not in into my current as much as i should be.

 

[TrueBlueLS]

If it ain't broke... don't fix it.

 

[Mill]

You pray that they are bi-sexual. AT is not the place for ANY advice about females. Just a hint.

 

[Citation]

Originally posted by: Millennium
You pray that they are bi-sexual. AT is not the place for ANY advice about females. Just a hint.

What are you talking about???

I'm not looking for advice, im looking for opinions. And what does being BI have to do with anything? It sounds like your head is still spinning quite a bit too.

-Cit

 

[rocadelpunk]

are you a gambling man?

 

[ohtwell]

I'd stay with the person I was already with. Anyone can act like they are something they aren't so this "dream" person could just be an act. They might make you happy now but when you get to know them they could be totally different than what you'd thought. You never know. What you do know is that you love the one you are with and that they make you happy.


: ) Amanda

 

[BD2003]

Hypothetically if you meet your dream girl while youre with someone, that someone youre with isnt your dream girl.

Yeah, breaking up sucks, but it'd be worth the cost.

 

[SaltBoy]

Okay, sorry for the previous comment.

If you want my opinion, I'd say stick with your current G/F. A lot of people would do anything to be in the relationship you're in right now. She sounds like a dream girl already

HOWEVER, if you KNOW WITHOUT A DOUBT that you will be in pure bliss for the rest of your life if you go with this new girl, then you would be a fool if you didn't go after her. The object and design of our existence is to be happy, and if you could be more happy with a different girl, then you better take advantage of the situation.

Such tough decisions and thoughts, though. I think either way would be good. Two timing is a no-no.

 

[Jzero]

I agree with Saltboy. If you somehow knew flat-out that this dream girl really is the girl of your dreams, then sticking with your current gf "just because" would be doing a dis-service to both of you.

Of course, IRL you can't possibly know 100% so you would have to trust your gut and hope for the best.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: Citation

Originally posted by: Millennium
You pray that they are bi-sexual. AT is not the place for ANY advice about females. Just a hint.

What are you talking about???

I'm not looking for advice, im looking for opinions. And what does being BI have to do with anything? It sounds like your head is still spinning quite a bit too.

-Cit

Now, you have me confused. It was simply joke. Nothing more. Carry on.

 

[Citation]

Originally posted by: Millennium

Originally posted by: Citation

Originally posted by: Millennium
You pray that they are bi-sexual. AT is not the place for ANY advice about females. Just a hint.

What are you talking about???

I'm not looking for advice, im looking for opinions. And what does being BI have to do with anything? It sounds like your head is still spinning quite a bit too.

-Cit

Now, you have me confused. It was simply joke. Nothing more. Carry on.

lol, now i see what you were trying to say. That is certainly a nice thought.....mmmmm...........maybe i should add a poll option.

 

[Electric Amish]

Which one are you in love with? Go with that one.

amish

 

[Citation]

Both


-Cit

Note: my girlfriend is real. The dream girl wasn't. Just a dream. Just a dream. I'm not actually contemplating leaving my girlfriend. Just a dream. Your opinions. What would you do. Was just a dream. Maybe this will help.

 

[minendo]

YAHGT: What would you do?

Both of them.

 

Seriously dude, that hypothetical is really far from reality. I don't know how to answer it really. If you leave it in an illusional world, then in that world you can make it all possible that someone is perfect, a perfect match and your relationship will remain perfect. In that case, why waste time with your gf who isn't exactly perfect or a perfect match? I mean, your hypothetical question assumes that all will go well perfectly for your dream girl and you, so nothing to worry about fate having something else in stock for you.

However, if we step back a bit to reality, it doesn't make sense to me that you would describe your current gf that way, yet she isn't worthy of the title "dream girl" yet. Strange if you ask me. So if you have to find someone else who's a dream girl, then maybe things aren't as great with your gf as you describe there? And maybe you really are falling into the pit of illusion and desire that we humans are often so guilty of. We dream on about something and imagine it being perfect. Nothing wrong with that. The only problem comes in when we often think that our illusion is really a possible reality. Perhaps fate is what has hindered us. Then we feel dissatisfied with what we have and long more for the other possible reality. Anyway, it's a vicious cycle. Hopefully you really do appreciate your current gf and actually do see her as the dream girl in our little world, limited existence, and imperfection. Best of luck to you.

 

[TwinkleToes77]

If I was already in love with my boyfriend(since im a girl) I would stay with my boyfriend, especially if I felt he was the one i was going to spend the rest of my life with. If another guy suddenly appeared in the picture that wouldnt change a thing because Id be very happy with my current boyfriend that I wouldnt need to look elsewhere.

 

[Sid59]

tough. i really don't know. hrmmmm