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[manlymatt83]

The Boston ex girlfriend (the one that caused me ALL that heartache) called me today to tell me:

1) I am sleeping with someone as a " hook up " since last week.
2) I now realize "How well you treated me and how lucky I was to have you"
3) "No one will ever hold me like you did"

I asked her about the new guy. She says its just a fling. I asked her if she finally wants to get together one day and say hi. She says she doesn't know because she will always love me and it hurts too much, but she wants to try being friends. We then went on to have a conversation like we used to and I even gave her sex tips! And she laughed.

What hurts is is that she kept talking about how nice this new guy is, even though they are just hooking up. I told her I still love her and hope to one day try again, and her respnose was somewhat positive but wasn't perfectly what I would have wanted.

Is this one of those famous "I realized what I lost and moved on and I want to be friends now but just letting you know that I appreciate all you did" conversations? Or is she actually realizing what she lost and keeping her "hook up" going but I might one day have a chance again if I keep being her friend and keep being there for her?

For a recap of all I've gone through with her:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.aspx?catid=38&threadid=1873902

 

[amicold]

You're fvcked. Women do this to men, that's something you're going to have to deal with. Move on.

 

[paulw86]

Don't be the "back-up" lover. She's disrespecting you by talking about this new guy in front of you. If she truely loves you still, she won't do that. You can keep waiting but I don't think it's a good idea.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: amicold
You're fvcked. Women do this to men, that's something you're going to have to deal with. Move on.

They realize what they lost but don't do anything about it? What if I just ask her "If no one will ever hold you like I did, why aren't we getting back together?"

Whats the worse that could happen?

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
The Boston ex girlfriend (the one that caused me ALL that heartache) called me today to tell me:

1) I am sleeping with someone as a " hook up " since last week.
2) I now realize "How well you treated me and how lucky I was to have you"
3) "No one will ever hold me like you did"

I asked her about the new guy. She says its just a fling. I asked her if she finally wants to get together one day and say hi. She says she doesn't know because she will always love me and it hurts too much, but she wants to try being friends. We then went on to have a conversation like we used to and I even gave her sex tips! And she laughed.

What hurts is is that she kept talking about how nice this new guy is, even though they are just hooking up. I told her I still love her and hope to one day try again, and her respnose was somewhat positive but wasn't perfectly what I would have wanted.

Is this one of those famous "I realized what I lost and moved on and I want to be friends now but just letting you know that I appreciate all you did" conversations? Or is she actually realizing what she lost and keeping her "hook up" going but I might one day have a chance again if I keep being her friend and keep being there for her?

This is one of those "say goodbye forever" type of situations. This situation will not end up with you being happier than you are now.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
The Boston ex girlfriend (the one that caused me ALL that heartache) called me today to tell me:

1) I am sleeping with someone as a " hook up " since last week.
2) I now realize "How well you treated me and how lucky I was to have you"
3) "No one will ever hold me like you did"

I asked her about the new guy. She says its just a fling. I asked her if she finally wants to get together one day and say hi. She says she doesn't know because she will always love me and it hurts too much, but she wants to try being friends. We then went on to have a conversation like we used to and I even gave her sex tips! And she laughed.

What hurts is is that she kept talking about how nice this new guy is, even though they are just hooking up. I told her I still love her and hope to one day try again, and her respnose was somewhat positive but wasn't perfectly what I would have wanted.

Is this one of those famous "I realized what I lost and moved on and I want to be friends now but just letting you know that I appreciate all you did" conversations? Or is she actually realizing what she lost and keeping her "hook up" going but I might one day have a chance again if I keep being her friend and keep being there for her?

This is one of those "say goodbye forever" type of situations. This situation will not end up with you being happier than you are now.

i'm happy now though. because she finally realized what the hell she lost.

 

[drinkmorejava]

I say the former

 

[Gunslinger08]

Give it some time. You'll understand. Go ahead and make whatever decision you want, but if you keep talking to her, you'll eventually see that I'm right.

 

[Dragoon42]

dude she hasn't realized jack, she's managed to just suck you in again. If you really want something and it's there, wouldn't get it? Her saying she realizes what she lost and then telling you that she's fscking another wtf? LOL RIGHT!!!! please OP, let go of this. At best i'd try to hit it again, but no attachments.

"I realize what i lost, but i'm still fscking someone else every night"

right dude....

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
Give it some time. You'll understand. Go ahead and make whatever decision you want, but if you keep talking to her, you'll eventually see that I'm right.

Cause she's gonna keep moving on?

Its just hard to understand why she's talking to other guys yet still is "in love with me" and still doesn't want to see me because she'll "always love me" and realizes, and I quote, COPIED FROM our conversation:

<User> I just realize how well you treated me and how good I had it with you.
<User> I will always love you.
<User> No one will ever hold me like you held me.

I just don't understand.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Dragoon42
dude she hasn't realized jack, she's managed to just suck you in again. If you really want something and it's there, wouldn't get it? Her saying she realizes what she lost and then telling you that she's fscking another wtf? LOL RIGHT!!!! please OP, let go of this. At best i'd try to hit it again, but no attachments.

"I realize what i lost, but i'm still fscking someone else every night"

right dude....

Yeah I know. I guess I'll just keep forcing myself to be "the friend" but maybe back off abit and see if she starts trying.

 

[Conky]

Originally posted by: Dragoon42
dude she hasn't realized jack, she's managed to just suck you in again. If you really want something and it's there, wouldn't get it? Her saying she realizes what she lost and then telling you that she's fscking another wtf? LOL RIGHT!!!! please OP, let go of this. At best i'd try to hit it again, but no attachments.

"I realize what i lost, but i'm still fscking someone else every night"

right dude....

I wouldn't even hit it again. It's doomed before it even starts.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Dragoon42
dude she hasn't realized jack, she's managed to just suck you in again. If you really want something and it's there, wouldn't get it? Her saying she realizes what she lost and then telling you that she's fscking another wtf? LOL RIGHT!!!! please OP, let go of this. At best i'd try to hit it again, but no attachments.

"I realize what i lost, but i'm still fscking someone else every night"

right dude....

She yelled at me when I slept with another girl after we broke up and said "I can't believe how much you've changed, the matt i knew would never sleep with anyone he didn't love."

Then a month later she goes and does it.

 

[Dragoon42]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Dragoon42
dude she hasn't realized jack, she's managed to just suck you in again. If you really want something and it's there, wouldn't get it? Her saying she realizes what she lost and then telling you that she's fscking another wtf? LOL RIGHT!!!! please OP, let go of this. At best i'd try to hit it again, but no attachments.

"I realize what i lost, but i'm still fscking someone else every night"

right dude....

Yeah I know. I guess I'll just keep forcing myself to be "the friend" but maybe back off abit and see if she starts trying.

dude no...this is a bad idea. I've been in your situation. NO WOMAN WILL TELL YOU THAT THEY MADE A MISTAKE AND THEN PORK ANOTHER GUY!!!

Don't be the friend you pfssy.

Reverse the situation. You broke up with a girl and you realize that the one your porking is worst then your ex. Would you still pork this girl and not try to get back together with your ex? THINK MAN!!!!

 

[saymyname]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
The Boston ex girlfriend (the one that caused me ALL that heartache) called me today to tell me:

1) I am sleeping with someone as a " hook up " since last week.
2) I now realize "How well you treated me and how lucky I was to have you"
3) "No one will ever hold me like you did"

I asked her about the new guy. She says its just a fling. I asked her if she finally wants to get together one day and say hi. She says she doesn't know because she will always love me and it hurts too much, but she wants to try being friends. We then went on to have a conversation like we used to and I even gave her sex tips! And she laughed.

What hurts is is that she kept talking about how nice this new guy is, even though they are just hooking up. I told her I still love her and hope to one day try again, and her respnose was somewhat positive but wasn't perfectly what I would have wanted.

Is this one of those famous "I realized what I lost and moved on and I want to be friends now but just letting you know that I appreciate all you did" conversations? Or is she actually realizing what she lost and keeping her "hook up" going but I might one day have a chance again if I keep being her friend and keep being there for her?

Why are you doing this to yourself. Change your number and tell her to piss off.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Dragoon42

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Dragoon42
dude she hasn't realized jack, she's managed to just suck you in again. If you really want something and it's there, wouldn't get it? Her saying she realizes what she lost and then telling you that she's fscking another wtf? LOL RIGHT!!!! please OP, let go of this. At best i'd try to hit it again, but no attachments.

"I realize what i lost, but i'm still fscking someone else every night"

right dude....

Yeah I know. I guess I'll just keep forcing myself to be "the friend" but maybe back off abit and see if she starts trying.

dude no...this is a bad idea. I've been in your situation. NO WOMAN WILL TELL YOU THAT THEY MADE A MISTAKE AND THEN PORK ANOTHER GUY!!!

Don't be the friend you pfssy.

Reverse the situation. You broke up with a girl and you realize that the one your porking is worst then your ex. Would you still pork this girl and not try to get back together with your ex? THINK MAN!!!!

Yeah, its true. So why tell me this out of no where? And why give me the satisfaction of being "the way she used to be" to me on the phone tonight (all cute, etc.)

 

[manlymatt83]

BTW, for a summary of all this, see:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.aspx?catid=38&threadid=1873902

 

[Dragoon42]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Dragoon42

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Dragoon42
dude she hasn't realized jack, she's managed to just suck you in again. If you really want something and it's there, wouldn't get it? Her saying she realizes what she lost and then telling you that she's fscking another wtf? LOL RIGHT!!!! please OP, let go of this. At best i'd try to hit it again, but no attachments.

"I realize what i lost, but i'm still fscking someone else every night"

right dude....

Yeah I know. I guess I'll just keep forcing myself to be "the friend" but maybe back off abit and see if she starts trying.

dude no...this is a bad idea. I've been in your situation. NO WOMAN WILL TELL YOU THAT THEY MADE A MISTAKE AND THEN PORK ANOTHER GUY!!!

Don't be the friend you pfssy.

Reverse the situation. You broke up with a girl and you realize that the one your porking is worst then your ex. Would you still pork this girl and not try to get back together with your ex? THINK MAN!!!!

Yeah, its true. So why tell me this out of no where? And why give me the satisfaction of being "the way she used to be" to me on the phone tonight (all cute, etc.)

....

this is gonna be my last. I can see why she broke up with you, you seem like an emo. Emo dudes annoy the $Hit out of me coz they're like little *@gg0ty girls..... No wonder she broke up with you. She's being a Bstch and you're letting her walk all over you. All the while going "I wonder why she's ripping my b@lls of my sack again....hrm...I wonder.....

 

[saymyname]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
BTW, for a summary of all this, see:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.aspx?catid=38&threadid=1873902

That's just a ridiculous amount of threads.

You need to just blog it and then get adult advice: stop all contact with this "girl" and start banging women.

 

[bleeb]

MOVE ON DAWG.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: saymyname

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
BTW, for a summary of all this, see:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.aspx?catid=38&threadid=1873902

That's just a ridiculous amount of threads.

You need to just blog it and then get adult advice: stop all contact with this "girl" and start banging women.

I want to but its so hard, cause she was my best pal for 3 years, knows everything about me.

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: saymyname

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
BTW, for a summary of all this, see:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.aspx?catid=38&threadid=1873902

That's just a ridiculous amount of threads.

You need to just blog it and then get adult advice: stop all contact with this "girl" and start banging women.

I want to but its so hard, cause she was my best pal for 3 years, knows everything about me.

People change. Think of her as a completely different person. Would the girl you loved go bang another dude and tell you about it and about the guy, semi-proudly? No. This is not the girl you love. She's gone.

 

[paulw86]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: saymyname

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
BTW, for a summary of all this, see:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.aspx?catid=38&threadid=1873902

That's just a ridiculous amount of threads.

You need to just blog it and then get adult advice: stop all contact with this "girl" and start banging women.

I want to but its so hard, cause she was my best pal for 3 years, knows everything about me.

It's hard for you but you must move on. Put yourself in her situation. You love to bang but the girl you're banging is worse than your ex. However your ex can wait, so it doesn't matter and you can even search for some more. Do you get it now? Move on.

 

[saymyname]

You're not the first guy to go through this. You need to drop her from your life forever. The guy above is right, think of her as a completely different person. Most people learn this when the wench comes and does something stupid/evil like tell you about guys she's having sex with. That was your clue.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: saymyname

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
BTW, for a summary of all this, see:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.aspx?catid=38&threadid=1873902

That's just a ridiculous amount of threads.

You need to just blog it and then get adult advice: stop all contact with this "girl" and start banging women.

I want to but its so hard, cause she was my best pal for 3 years, knows everything about me.

People change. Think of her as a completely different person. Would the girl you loved go bang another dude and tell you about it and about the guy, semi-proudly? No. This is not the girl you love. She's gone.

Correct. She isn't the same person she used to be. But can peope really change like that? That's scary!