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Originally posted by: ahurtt
Originally posted by: AreaCode707
Originally posted by: Skoorb
No, if you need one don't get married. Even if you do have a reasonably good chance of divorce (and you do), you're just a fvcking douche if you go around with that hanging over the marriage's head. If you love her enough to marry her now you should love her enough to give her a bunch of money later. And so what if you lose some money, you'll die one day and your net worth won't count for a sh*t in the woods.
From the general world point of view:
I wouldn't want to ever have to for one second think that my spouse was staying with me because of the dramatic lifestyle change they'd have if they left. Pre-nup and the changes of financial status that it brings provides incentive for people to stay by lying and cheating rather than being honest about the end of a relationship.
From my point of view:
I want to commit everything I have in life, including my financials, to this relationship, that's why I'm getting married in the first place. I don't want an out clause or a do-over button.
A prenup brings the thing in bold above to the person who came into the relationship without all the money. For the person who has the assets it is supposed to protect, it can have the opposite effect making it too easy for them to just abandon the marriage because of petty squabbles or difficulties which EVERY MARRIAGE WILL HAVE at some point. Bottom line is, if your spouse is going to lie and cheat on you, they are going to do so regardless of whether there is a prenup. A prenup will not serve as a deterrent to adultery or conflict in an unhappy marriage.
My point was that a prenup will ENCOURAGE adultery and conflict avoidance.
"If I leave, I go from living on $150k a year to $30k a year. I might as well stay, be polite to my spouse and go have my bit on the side. It's not optimum but better than nothing."