Originally posted by: purepolly
'I agree completely. How can you expect to have a good relationship when she places demands on things as silly as a subscription to Playboy."
To you it might be a silly thing. To her it is not.
When I first met the ex, I would have agreed with you. I didn't care either way if he had porn. But in retrospect, his reaction to porn should have been a huge red flag for me. It was just one of many ways to get his fix.
What matters is in a relationship is compatibility. I think the girl is pretty cool because she is being upfront about what she needs and expects in the relationship. Whether or not you think it is silly is irrelevant.
How can they be compatible when she makes demands on a man who has had a subscription for that many years. It's obvious he enjoys the magazine. His reasons are his own. I think that she should respect the fact that he enjoys the magazine. As Amish said, marriage isn't about demands, it's about compromise and compatibility. She's heading for a collision even if he does agree to cancel the subscription.