You think your family is bad?

[Sinsear]

Sister hooked on pills?

 

[ch33zw1z]

If my kids are still living with me in their mid to late 20's I will shoot myself. Fuck that.

maybe that's the plan, uh oh!

 

[Mixolydian]

Not a teenager, far from.

Then how old? Unless you're a teenager there's no reason to still be living with mommy.

If my kids are still living with me in their mid to late 20's I will shoot them. Fuck that.

ftfy.

 

[JManInPhoenix]

You need to GTFO. Just cut ties and run. How far away are you from finishing school? If you're not close, just join the Navy or Air Force and have your school paid for.

This

 

[gorcorps]

Absolutely true, tried to keep some anonymity, made that thread a few days ago. Is there a problem? If you think that calling me out on that is going to somehow make me feel bad, or guilty, or stupid, well I am sorry but it didn't work. Either you got something to contribute or you just want to stir up bs. If bs is the case, then take it else where.

This reaction is ridiculous. You better take a breath and REALLY think about what you dislike about your family because it seems like you're wired just like them. You got very defensive when somebody pointed out you did something wrong and tried to give a reason why you did it (privacy? lol)

 

[Number1]

Definitely worst family ever and you're part of it. What does that make you?

 

[Kaido]

Need proof.

http://i.imgur.com/pl1QpMg.jpg

 

[Kaido]

Responses that are either good or bad, it doesn't matter. Someone can tell me that yes I am a douche and that I am clearly wrong. Or someone can tell me that I am right and that what I am saying is indeed true. It doesn't really matter. As a matter of fact just a response is general is good enough for me. Its a rant, I need to get this shit off my chest I need to clear my mind. Typing this stuff out and putting it out there for the whole world to see helps, and I have no fear in terms of who reads it.

Here is the bottom line: (per your OP)

1. Your mom has issues
2. Your sister has issues
3. If you stay, YOU will have to continue to deal with those issues
4. If you don't want to continue dealing with this situation, then you need to move out - and move far away (give them a PO Box address to contact you if needed, not your address, and a free Google Voice number if they need to call or text)
5. If you are unwilling to move, then YOU are now the cause of your problems because YOU are continuing to allow this crazy situation to be inflicted on you.

You aren't going to change your mom or your sister; you can only change yourself, which means you have the power to leave. I hate to suggest bailing on your family, but it sounds pretty toxic and it sounds like it's affecting your life negatively quite a bit. You are going to be one stressed out dude if you continue to live there. I've had both roommates and jobs (bosses) that I've had to dump (wasn't easy) because of similar situations; it's usually the best way to simple get out of dodge.

You mentioned that you had moved out for 3 years; can you do it again? Soon? Is there anything holding you back from moving out?

 

[Kaido]

Definitely worst family ever and you're part of it. What does that make you?

This is what kills me. It's like Stockholm syndrome. I have a friend IRL in an extremely similar situation, only with his mother & brother. The will take his phone & laptop when he's out or asleep and read his personal communications, post nasty things on his social media, etc. It drives him absolutely nuts, but he refuses to move out, so the situation is now this: he is the root cause of his problems because he has the power to change it and refuses to do so.

The situation in the house is outside his control, but leaving that housing situation is within his control, which gives him ownership of the solution to his problem. Therefore, if the problem persists, it's entirely his fault because it's within his power to change the situation, and right now he chooses not to leave, so I've told him to quit complaining to me about his problems because I don't want to listen to someone whine about a situation they have control over changing but refuse to.

OP, it sounds like you're in this same situation. Why are you not moving out?

 

[santz]

isn't the F word being blatantly used here... calm down! every one here has asked you to move out to instantly solve the situation, sounds about right.

and yeah, calm down...

 

[sixone]

OP, it sounds like you're in this same situation. Why are you not moving out?

Because then he won't have mommy to pay for his room and board. It's not okay for his sisters to bleed his mother dry, but it's okay for the OP to do it because he NEEDS a roof over his head.

If he moves out, he can't tell himself how morally superior he is to everyone around him.

 

[waggy]

Then how old? Unless you're a teenager there's no reason to still be living with mommy.


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Long as he is going to school who gives a fuck. he is trying to make something out of his life. not sitting around with a part time job

I don't consider this "teenage drama" it is his equipment. he has a right to be pissed.

 

[brianmanahan]

And here you are feeding your own drama by involving total strangers. Think about that a bit.

its pretty helpless imho tbh

 

[FuzzyDunlop]

Because then he won't have mommy to pay for his room and board. It's not okay for his sisters to bleed his mother dry, but it's okay for the OP to do it because he NEEDS a roof over his head.

If he moves out, he can't tell himself how morally superior he is to everyone around him.

This.
Unless OP is paying rent to his mom I have near zero sympathy.

GTFO of there, stop feeling sorry for yourself, recognize that you may have the same issues as your entire family, and improve.

 

[noobsrevenge]

Long as he is going to school who gives a fuck. he is trying to make something out of his life. not sitting around with a part time job

I don't consider this "teenage drama" it is his equipment. he has a right to be pissed.

that was my thoughts.

Everyone saying "move out, duh" as if going to school and paying rent is SO easy.

 

[xanis]

My family *is* bad at the moment (see L&R). Crazy comes in different forms.

 

[Squeetard]

that was my thoughts.

Everyone saying "move out, duh" as if going to school and paying rent is SO easy.

It's not easy but it is doable. And a better alternative to living there.

 

[Kaido]

It's not easy but it is doable. And a better alternative to living there.

Exactly. If it's ruining your life, you owe it to yourself to improve your situation. No one said it would be easy - but it is doable! I left a great job in the past because it was a toxic work environment. It wasn't easy, but I'm soooo much happier on a daily basis that it was TOTALLY worth the hassle.

 

[Markbnj]

Not all women are crazy

Hypothesis cannot be fully tested.

 

[Mixolydian]

Long as he is going to school who gives a fuck. he is trying to make something out of his life. not sitting around with a part time job

I don't consider this "teenage drama" it is his equipment. he has a right to be pissed.

See this:

It's not easy but it is doable. And a better alternative to living there.

:thumbsup:

But to answer the OP's question,

You think your family is bad?

Yes. But probably not as bad as yours.

 

[JumBie]

that was my thoughts.

Everyone saying "move out, duh" as if going to school and paying rent is SO easy.

This^^.

Where or how do people think that someone who goes to school full time is able to pay for school, food, clothes, personal supplies, bus fare, and rent at the same time? I really want to see how please. This isn't the 1980s, it cost a lot of money to live on your own and go to school.

I pay $150 a month on the bus, I pay $150 a month on food, I pay $30 on personal supplies (anti-perspirant or toothpaste etc...) I pay for a cell phone, I pay for books, for tutition, and on top of that you expect me to find the money to throw down minimum $400 for a room in a house with 6 other students.

One of you guys who keep saying its so doable to move out and do all of this please chime in, and give me some sort of spreadsheet that shows me how doable this is.

 

[waggy]

This^^.

Where or how do people think that someone who goes to school full time is able to pay for school, food, clothes, personal supplies, bus fare, and rent at the same time? I really want to see how please. This isn't the 1980s, it cost a lot of money to live on your own and go to school.

I pay $150 a month on the bus, I pay $150 a month on food, I pay $30 on personal supplies (anti-perspirant or toothpaste etc...) I pay for a cell phone, I pay for books, for tutition, and on top of that you expect me to find the money to throw down minimum $400 for a room in a house with 6 other students.

One of you guys who keep saying its so doable to move out and do all of this please chime in, and give me some sort of spreadsheet that shows me how doable this is.

meh people do it. its not impossible but not easy.

IF you can live at home and save money go for it.

 

[Humpy]

...Oh yeh and by the way, all of my textbooks combined are worth $2000 dollars, so this is no joke.

Bullshit. Your sister would have got maybe $300 for the books. 2009 edition textbooks used at community college aren't worth much. And quit being a pussy and blaming your family for you being a dumbass.

 

[JumBie]

Bullshit. Your sister would have got maybe $300 for the books. 2009 edition textbooks used at community college aren't worth much. And quit being a pussy and blaming your family for you being a dumbass.

2013 was pretty much the best year ever. Finished college and got a pretty good job, with a 10 minute commute, which completed a total career change I had been working on for 3 years. Gutted and remodeled my kitchen over the summer. Wife brought me home a kitten that reminds me a lot of my dog I put down a couple years ago. Got a couple new bicycles that I keep in the living room with the others. Doubled my ATOT post count by being friendly and helpful to all. Lost 40 pounds of disgusting fat but started lifting weights so I am stronger than ever. Quit caring about even more stuff I shouldn't care about.

You must be delusional, probably a lie like everything else in that post. Is the dead dog a lie too?

 

[Humpy]

You must be delusional, probably a lie like everything else in that post. Is the dead dog a lie too?

Did you find my post where I claim to be a singer/dancer in a world famous boy band? :biggrin: