"Youll find someone someday" - rant

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Being alone isn't all that bad.

No it isn't and it sure beats being with somebody who's "settled" for you.

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Being alone isn't all that bad.

No it isn't and it sure beats being with somebody who's "settled" for you.

Amen! and It sure beats that sick feeling you get when you realize just what it is WE, ourselves, have settled for.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Being alone isn't all that bad.

No it isn't and it sure beats being with somebody who's "settled" for you.

Amen! and It sure beats that sick feeling you get when you realize just what it is WE, ourselves, have settled for.

When you realise that all that you are isn't good enough and that no matter what you do or how hard you try
that you were never their preferred type to begin with.. that hurts as does the realisation of how much energy and how many years you wasted trying to please a person who did you the diservive of deciding to be with you till someone better came along instead of sucking it up and staying alone till they met their type.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Post a pic so we can decide how ugly you are.

 

[wolf papa]

yep, I've been there .......... the truth is, you probably WILL find someone someday. It's just that today may not be that day. Human nature is that we want WHAT we want, WHEN we want it, and anything less can dissolve us into self pity.

I spent a lot of time alone, and some in relationships. As I matured, I realized that a relationship (even a friendship) is something of an exchange - both parties have to bring something that the other one values. One of my problems was that I didn't know what I valued - what was REALLY important to me. Physical attractiveness is fine, but when the lights are off, it doesn't make much difference. It took me a long time to figure out what traits I wanted my partner to have, and also to know myself what I was capable of offering. It would be hypocritical to expect honesty, loyalty, affection, patience and kindness from a woman if I was not capable of providing the same to her.

 

[Anubis]

A One That Isn?t Cold, Is Scarcely A One At All


i found "The One" once. but then she joined a sororoty and because a compleat slut. she has now slept with more guys then i can count on my hands and my toes. this includes more then 1 at the same time

so im out lookin again

 

[Hammer]

damn you're bitter

 

[CraigRT]

you likely WILL find someone someday, unless your pic can be found on uglypeople.com everyone has a match out there somewhere.

 

[Kaieye]

Know one is going to like you unless you like yourself. Go travel or volunteer! There are a sh*tload of people who are comparable to you.

 

[Zenmervolt]

How old are you? Why does finding someone even matter?

ZV

 

wah wah wah.

Read some sociology and psychology books.
Then you might understand more, and not complain as much.

 

[ILikeStuff]

Originally posted by: mrCide
heh, the only time i can really remember being happy is when i was with a girl i loved (or htought i did)... in my whole life. i'll tlel you what, money doesn't buy happiness (getting my 'dream' car soon, dont care that much anymore), hobbies don't keep me happy (like going to sleep with the thought that i'll have someone there for me tomorrow)..

i dunno, maybe i'm just weird.. but the only time im happy is with a chick

Personally, sounds like you have some dependancy issues.. seek help

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: hdeck

Originally posted by: datalink7

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: dougcio
I think it's more like "You'll settle for someone someday."

At least for me it probably will be.

dc

Be sure to remind her of that fact at each and every opportunity,women love being reminded of just how lucky they are that men "settled" for them.

Well, he is right in a way. And it could be the same way for her.

We all want "Mr/Mrs. Right" to come along and fall for us. But in the end we have to "settle" for someone else. This is because there is no such thing as Mr/Mrs. Right. We have to "settle" for reality.

Sadly, some people can't seem to grasp this and never forgive their SO for not being this imagined being that doesn't exist. This is the real tragedy

i don't see how you can speak for everyone when there are people in this post that have said they have found the right person. being this negative won't get you anything in life. just adds to the wasted space.

Negative? When was I being negative?

I was saying it is sad that people can't accept reality. Reality is that nobody is perfect. I've seen it happen. People blame their SO for not being perfect. If they could only accept that nobody is perfect, and accept this fact, then I believe many relationships would be better

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Being alone isn't all that bad.

i think it is. what do you do to keep you happy?

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: TheEvil1
A One That Isn?t Cold, Is Scarcely A One At All


i found "The One" once. but then she joined a sororoty and because a compleat slut. she has now slept with more guys then i can count on my hands and my toes. this includes more then 1 at the same time

so im out lookin again

Can I have her #?

 

[Rainsford]

You will find someone, as long as you are looking for the right person. Ask yourself this question, what does attractivness have to do with it. Finding the right person should not mean finding some hottie who will sleep with you. If that is what you are looking for, then yes, it helps to be a super stud of some kind. But if you are really looking for a meaningful relationship, believe me, beautiful people don't have it any easier than you do. They may find more people, but those people tend to be shallow, vain, jerks.

Of course if you just wish you were a stud so you could get the hot chicks, then I guess this doesn't mean a lot. But if that is the case, maybe you should think a little harder on what you want out of a relationship and life as a whole.

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Being alone isn't all that bad.

No it isn't and it sure beats being with somebody who's "settled" for you.

Or vice versa. I'd rather be alone and happy, then be with someone and be miserable. I've had both...

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: WalMart1564
i work at wal-mart so i see alot of the public

there really is somone for everyone
there will always be somone as desperate as you are or more

lower your standards

That's fairly true. Although you may just need time as opposed to lowering standards (depends how old you are). Almost everyone in life has had a chance to marry if they wanted to. You WILL find somebody, even though it sounds like total bullsh*t now, and the reason is that the law of averages says you will. You've only been alive so long. You have a long way to go.

 

[Yeeny]

Being alone is underrated, IMO. I'm enjoying playing the field right about now, just having fun, and not worrying about what anyone else wants from me. All that matters, is what I want, or don't, from them. Take heart Swag1138, you will find someone. Real men and women don't put much value on looks, as much as they do someones heart. Speaking for myself, I would much rather have some geeky guy who society deems ugly, if he is intelligent and can make me laugh, than some handsome muscular jerk, who I have to compete with for the mirror. Because when you love someone, they can never be ugly to you. And when I find him, I'm never letting him go.

 

[schizoid]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Being alone isn't all that bad.

No it isn't and it sure beats being with somebody who's "settled" for you.

Sour grapes...

Now, maybe if you had bigger boobs...

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: Swag1138
What a load of complete crap. Youll find somone eventually...HAH, you know what that is? Thats what the beautiful people tell their friends because it sounds nicer than "I pity you, you ugly soul," because its more soothing than saying "I know...who would ever want you!" Well, you know what? Im tired of it. I know Im never going to find "the one" well enough without your empty, condescending, pity-phrase. If your really my friend, tell me the truth. Dont pander to your sense of "kindness." Kind is putting cutting off the arm to save the life. Kind is shoving the birds out of their nests so they learn how to fly. Attempting to fill somones mind with false hope? Thats not kind. Thats cruel.


Sorry, Im just angry life right now, felt like getting it out......

You're conceited and ungrateful.

 

[Schadenfreude]

*last friday*

me: You okay? you don't sound so hot.
girl: (Pouts) I'm sick.
me: (Hopeful) So . . . you'll be staying home all this weekend?
girl: yeah. See you monday! (walks off)
me: :Q

(apparently, my friend went on a "date" with this girl last week, and he found out she just wanted to be "friends" [was getting mixed signals previously, apparently] - WTF?! Is this some kind of conspiracy?! Guys are getting pwned by girls left and right! )

 

[schizoid]

Originally posted by: XZeroII
It's meant as a glimpse of hope. You know, one of those nuggets that you arn't supposed to think deeply about, but just believe in to make yourself feel better. I agree with the Walmart guy, I've seen some people that you would think would NEVER reproduce and lo-and-behold, they manage somehow. There are over 6 billion people on this planet. I'm sure you just arn't looking in the right places.


My own rant: It's kinda like the people who go bar hopping every night and are looking for Ms right. Makes me laugh every time. You can find Ms right at a bar, but the odds are so against you.

Dude, XZeroII, you have the coolest sig ever.

The reality seems to be, that once girls hit around 28, they seem to really not care about looks. I mean, haven't you noticed that every time you see an older couple, just getting married/dating/whatever on TV (like, real couples, not from movies or Reality TV shows or whatever) usually the girl is hot and the guy is just average. It's probably because the guy is nice, has a decent job and bothers to listen. If you can meet those base-line qualities, you'll be the cream of the crop as far as girls are concerned...but only when the girls are looking for that stuff.

Is that going to help you get laid at the bar or the party or the club? Hell no. And you know what? You're pretty much SOL. Sorry...that's just the way it works.

But it's not like it will always be like that. People like to sugarcoat it and say "Well, when you love someone on the inside it doesn't matter what they look like blah blah blah" but it's just a matter of priorities. Girls that aren't married at a certain age pretty much decide that their current set of priorities obviously hasn't worked for them, so they go get some new ones in order to not be alone.

Eh...whatever. I want both hotness and a connection. I don't care. I can be picky.