Your biggest regrets in life

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Zebo

Elite Member
Jul 29, 2001
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Riding motorcycles. Almost killed 2x and still feel effects and aging fast because of it.
 

vshah

Lifer
Sep 20, 2003
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Having regrets is worthless, you can't change the past. Some good has come out of every bad life decision that I've made.

I totally agree. I didn't study at all my first year of college. Took a year off directly after that, and came back as a sophomore with a different class. It sucked, for a while.

But, I made a whole lot of new friends, and met my girlfriend as a direct result.
 

Via

Diamond Member
Jan 14, 2009
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Many, but one stands out:

In grad school I had a professor who really liked me; we got along great - went out to bars, had parties at his house, just hung out and were very good friends (He was pretty young, maybe 35).

This guy was also very connected (had been a lawyer before decideing to go into education) and secured jobs for a lot of people. Anyway, to make a long story short: He got frustrated about on-the-side jobs that some of us grad students were doing. He felt we should be concentrating on our work as grad students (and to be fair - some of the jobs conficted in a VERY slight way with some of our responsiblities).

So at the beginnig of my second year he called us out (in front of undergrads) and gave a pretty mean speech that ended up with the line "If you want to do jobs on your own, go live in public housing. Don't waste my time".

That line burned through me like a laser. I had spent the previous 3 years finishing up my undergrad degree supporting myself with whatever money I could find. I lived in the basement of an old ladie's house like a homeless hobo.

Now I was actually making enough money to buy a pizza occasionally (our grad assistant pay was pathetic) and this guy was telling me to "go live in public housing"? I was furious.

I refused to talk to him in any social way after that. I only talked to him only to respond to school related things in a cold way. He would call me; I never returned his calls.

He would ask me what happened, and I would say "nothing". After a few months he stopped trying to interact with me, and I finished my schooling and left without ever clearing anything up.

Now it's ten years later. I've realized that time deson't stop, it just keeps on going.

I've also realized that I let ONE remark made in ONE lecture on ONE night completely ruin what could have been the best friendship of my life. I should have just let it go.

I definitely regret that.
 

vshah

Lifer
Sep 20, 2003
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Many, but one stands out:

In grad school I had a professor who really liked me; we got along great - went out to bars, had parties at his house, just hung out and were very good friends (He was pretty young, maybe 35).

This guy was also very connected (had been a lawyer before decideing to go into education) and secured jobs for a lot of people. Anyway, to make a long story short: He got frustrated about on-the-side jobs that some of us grad students were doing. He felt we should be concentrating on our work as grad students (and to be fair - some of the jobs conficted in a VERY slight way with some of our responsiblities).

So at the beginnig of my second year he called us out (in front of undergrads) and gave a pretty mean speech that ended up with the line "If you want to do jobs on your own, go live in public housing. Don't waste my time".

That line burned through me like a laser. I had spent the previous 3 years finishing up my undergrad degree supporting myself with whatever money I could find. I lived in the basement of an old ladie's house like a homeless hobo.

Now I was actually making enough money to buy a pizza occasionally (our grad assistant pay was pathetic) and this guy was telling me to "go live in public housing"? I was furious.

I refused to talk to him in any social way after that. I only talked to him only to respond to school related things in a cold way. He would call me; I never returned his calls.

He would ask me what happened, and I would say "nothing". After a few months he stopped trying to interact with me, and I finished my schooling and left without ever clearing anything up.

Now it's ten years later. I've realized that time deson't stop, it just keeps on going.

I've also realized that I let ONE remark made in ONE lecture on ONE night completely ruin what could have been the best friendship of my life. I should have just let it go.

I definitely regret that.


that's tough. its hard to admit you overreacted to someone after ignoring them even for a short while.
 

kalrith

Diamond Member
Aug 22, 2005
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theres a ton of things ive done that i regret, but that doesnt mean id change them at this point. the mistakes ive made are part of what made me who i am today.

That's where I'm at. I regret where I went for my undergrad (very strict, oppressive Bible college that cared more about their rules than the Bible), but if I hadn't gone there, I wouldn't be who I am today.

My biggest current regret is putting myself into a situation of having to spend the last year remodeling my old house. Basically I took out a 100% loan-to-value home-equity loan when the market was at peak. There's no way the house would've sold for that price. I then used the money to buy a new house thinking that it would take about 3 months to remodel the old one and put it on the market. Well, about a year later I'm 2-3 weeks away from completing it and have missed a lot of time with my 9mo son (I usually see him 20 minutes/day). However, I have learned a lot from the experience, and my new knowledge and experience might come in handy one day. Hopefully we'll also get a few thousand dollars in profit over what we owe on the place.

Again, mistakes should shape us. It's fine to look back and say, "Maybe I shouldn't have done that." But it's not fine to live with regret and wallow in self-pity over what might have been if you had made a different decision 10 years ago. I used to be really, really bad about living with regret, but I've learned a lot about myself over the past few months and have made a lot of headway in not letting worthless, negative things like regret bring me down and not allow me to enjoy the life I have.
 

FelixDeCat

Lifer
Aug 4, 2000
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Buying a $75,000 call option when I should have bought a put option. That was a $20,000 no-no.
 

F1N3ST

Diamond Member
Nov 9, 2006
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Mine so far is uh...Kinda cheating...I say kinda because I'm not quite sure if I cheated or not...maybe if I say what I did you could tell me! I already told my girlfriend who is over it, but I'm not quite, still feel like shit.
 

FelixDeCat

Lifer
Aug 4, 2000
29,309
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Mine so far is uh...Kinda cheating...I say kinda because I'm not quite sure if I cheated or not...maybe if I say what I did you could tell me! I already told my girlfriend who is over it, but I'm not quite, still feel like shit.

As long as you are not endorsing any products and she has forgiven you, its ok to take it day by day from here. Good luck to you.
 

Zee

Diamond Member
Nov 27, 1999
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not working hard enough in college to graduate in a timely manner
 

jjmIII

Diamond Member
Mar 13, 2001
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I should have taken better care of my teeth.....too may cavities for a 36yr old!
 

Mide

Golden Member
Mar 27, 2008
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Picked the wrong major in college.

Left a damn good & stable job to see Asia for a year.
 

Zargon

Lifer
Nov 3, 2009
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Having regrets is worthless, you can't change the past. Some good has come out of every bad life decision that I've made.


mostly.

most of my bad decisions, fucking around in undergrad drinking too much etc

put me on a path that put me in a job I enjoy and is how I met my wife(not the job, but dropping out of one college and going to another one 2 years later)

I regret wasting my parents money for a year or three, and doing some stupid shit, not foing into the army when I had a good chance

but I like the life I have so why regret that shit
 

Q

Lifer
Jul 21, 2005
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lol most of these 'regrets' can only be seen in retrospect

POINTLESS.

you live, you learn, the end.

I agree -- I regret transferring away from my old college but nothing terrible happened because of it.
 

Saint Nick

Lifer
Jan 21, 2005
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Spending the first two years of college with a girl who was fucking crazy and allowed to occupy all my time.

Not going into a music program when I first came to college. Finishing with an MIS degree and working in IT which I absolutely hate. I'm redeeming myself here, though, because I am going to go into the jazz guitar program and music technology program at our local university.

Thats about it.
 
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