your thoughts/prayers are welcome

[rh71]

Last week, my grandmother was diagnosed with lung cancer in the last stage. Relatives who are in the medical field said to us that this usually meant the patient has only 2 months left to live. It could also be up to a year. I had started a previous thread about fluids in the lungs and questioned what that meant. This was before the official diagnosis being in the last stage of her cancer.

Well I received a phone call this morning from my dad saying she was in the hospital again - that she had trouble breathing - but now she's ok and sleeping. My dad started getting choked up and was obviously struggling to speak - I had never seen/heard him cry before.

I have sort of a language barrier with my grandmother so we never really got close. I used that excuse so that I didn't have to go see her on Friday - and that I would see her another time when I feel more comfortable. Now that this has happened, I feel regretful. She's not passed yet, but I won't have many opportunities. I'm heading over to the hospital in a few while I wait for my mom to get more details of location. I'm not much of a religious person but I thought that anything from anyone couldn't hurt at this point. Being her first grandson, I really want her to make it to my wedding in September, so she can share in our joy. The hopes are dimming, and my heart is heavy. I'm 26 and have never had to deal with death before this, except for a great grandfather I barely knew. Still, I cried at his funeral before I was even a teenager. This one hits a bit closer to home. If you have any faith, please share it with us...

 

Brutal man.

Move the wedding date up?

 

[Brutuskend]

Loosing a relative is never easy.

I hope she makes it to your wedding, but at this point in her disease, she may not want to stick around for long.

 

[BlueWeasel]

I understand exactly what you are going through. My grandmother (who was more like my 2nd mother) was in and out of the hospital constantly for the last couple years of her life. It was very hard for me, and I hope the best for you and grandmother.

 

[upsciLLion]

I will pray for her.

 

[Supertastic Fool]

I'd move my wedding date... thas just me though

 

[rh71]

Thanks.

Well I learned that she wasn't a smoker at all... nobody in the family is. Apparently she got this from years and years of working in a "sweat shop"... I guess the environment didn't serve her or the other workers too well. I recall being brought to her care by our mom on a lot of occasions after school. My grandmother was our after-school care...

She looked fine today when I went to see her. Bed-ridden, but not looking like she's suffering or anything. My mom commented to me how she would not likely be able to even attend our wedding regardless of whether she is alive then or not...

 

[DaveSimmons]

If she's going to be too weak to attend, maybe your fiancee or mom can bring her things like pictures of the wedding gown and the wedding site, so she can feel at least a little bit like she was there in spirit. And sorry for your loss .

 

[ctbaars]

Last week, my grandmother was diagnosed with lung cancer in the last stage. Relatives who are in the medical field said to us that this usually meant the patient has only 2 months left to live. It could also be up to a year. I had started a previous thread about fluids in the lungs and questioned what that meant. This was before the official diagnosis being in the last stage of her cancer.

Well I received a phone call this morning from my dad saying she was in the hospital again - that she had trouble breathing - but now she's ok and sleeping. My dad started getting choked up and was obviously struggling to speak - I had never seen/heard him cry before.

I have sort of a language barrier with my grandmother so we never really got close. I used that excuse so that I didn't have to go see her on Friday - and that I would see her another time when I feel more comfortable. Now that this has happened, I feel regretful. She's not passed yet, but I won't have many opportunities. I'm heading over to the hospital in a few while I wait for my mom to get more details of location. I'm not much of a religious person but I thought that anything from anyone couldn't hurt at this point. Being her first grandson, I really want her to make it to my wedding in September, so she can share in our joy. The hopes are dimming, and my heart is heavy. I'm 26 and have never had to deal with death before this, except for a great grandfather I barely knew. Still, I cried at his funeral before I was even a teenager. This one hits a bit closer to home. If you have any faith, please share it with us...

@rh71 I hope all is well with you and your marriage.

 

[rh71]

ctbaars on a role with all the thread necros, but that was 15 years ago. I've since had to deal with a few more deaths (her, plus my grandfathers on both sides - all various cancers) and I feel more like it's just their time when it happens. I actually felt quite cold-hearted about it during/while it was happening. As always, the same applies - F Cancer.

 

[Captante]

As always, the same applies - F Cancer (!!!)

Amen brother ... lost my dad to prostate cancer & still miss him every day

 

[Fern]

You and your family have my thoughts and prayers. Hope the best for you all.

Fern

 

[Geekbabe]

Thinking of her, you and your family. Lung cancer is brutal, nobody deserves this disease...nobody

 

[Mayne]

I'm sorry for your loss. in my thoughts

 

[ultimatebob]

I'm sorry for your loss. in my thoughts

(Looks at the original post date, starts shaking my head)

I had a cat that died a few years ago if you wanted to mourn him as well, Mayne